I’ve had the privilege to meet with numerous women considering adoption. With each meeting, I talk with them about how creating an adoption plan is not something that anyone ever wants to do. I don’t say that because adoption can’t be a beautiful thing. I say it because adoption is not easy.
If I were to sit across the table from you, I would want to hear your story first. I would answer all of your questions about parenting and adoption. And then I would talk with you about adoption and my experiences with it.
It has been a privilege for me to walk with many women through their pregnancies. Some of those women have placed for adoption and some of those women have chosen to parent. All of those women have taught me and changed me.
I truly believe that adoption is an active choice. It is a choice a woman makes in an effort of giving her baby the best life possible. It is also often a choice a woman makes in an effort to take care of other children. Some people are able to parent multiple children; some people feel they are unable to give as much as they feel they should to each child. All people do what they feel is best for the child.
So why do some people choose adoption? I hear that question often, and my answer is always the same “it varies.” And it does. Adoption is a choice a woman makes for a number of reasons, and each reason is valid.
If you are thinking about what is best for your child, I want you to know that you are a good parent. Parenting means putting the needs of your child above your own, and that is such a difficult thing to do. It is okay to have questions about adoption. And it is okay to feel like adoption is right for you. No one else can tell you it’s not right for you; no one else can make you place for adoption either.
You’re brave. I want you to know that. You are strong. And this is a scary and difficult time. It is never too late to think about adoption, and it is okay if you choose to parent your child. You simply have to make the choice that is best for you and not the choice that is best for anyone else.
We’re here to talk with you about adoption and to walk with you through this difficult time. You are not alone.
We wish you the best.
Leslie Knight, Executive Director (2013-2016)