5 Self-Care Tips for Birth Mothers in Adoption Process in Oklahoma
As a birth mother, self-care is probably the last thing on your mind. You are probably more worried about this unwanted pregnancy you are facing or that you have to figure out this whole adoption process. This is such a tough time, and you might be having all sorts of feelings, all of which are valid.
One of the most important parts of the adoption process for birth mothers is self-care. It is so important to take care of yourself, especially during such a hard time. There are so many ways to give yourself that self-care. You can do the normal pampering self-care, like taking a bath or having a spa day, or you can surround yourself with supportive friends and family. Both are a form of self-care.
Here at Adoption Choices of Oklahoma, we are here to be a support team for you and to help you be kind to yourself throughout the entire adoption process. We understand how overwhelming considering adoption can be, and we want to make sure that you are still giving yourself the self-care you deserve as a birth mother.
- Surround Yourself with People Who Support Your Adoption ChoicesThere are many stigmas surrounding unplanned pregnancies and adoption, so finding those people in your life who support your adoption choices is important. They will be able to give you that outside support you may need and give you that unconditional love you deserve!If you don’t feel comfortable confiding in your friends or family or would rather have a support group full of birth mothers, there are support groups on Facebook for birth mothers like you. There are so many birth mothers who have gone through what you are going through and those who are currently in a similar situation as you—being able to talk to someone in a similar situation can be really good for your adoption journey.
If you’ve never been a birth mother before and don’t know what you will be going through during the adoption process, finding other birth mothers is important. They can help you figure out the best options for you throughout the adoption process and help you better understand the entire adoption process, and make you feel valid with all of your feelings and decisions. But, in the end, everything is up to you, and we know that you just want the best for your baby, so we will always be here to support you at Adoption Choices of Oklahoma.
- Take Time for Yourself and Relax as a Birth Mother in OklahomaAs a birth mother, you go through a rough time with an unexpected pregnancy, but it can get overwhelming when you add an Oklahoma adoption process to your life. You deserve to take time for yourself and relax! There are so many ways that you can relax and have alone time for yourself.You can take a bath. Splurge on a Lush bath bomb, put it in the tub to turn the water pink and bubbly and spend the evening with yourself. Turn on Netflix, read a book, listen to music, or just sit in the warm water and relax. Baths are safe for pregnant women, so make sure the water isn’t too hot and very relaxing. A bath is a great way to get your mind off of all of the anxieties.
Have a spa day! This is similar to taking a bath but going out if you are comfortable doing so at the moment. Spas are such a great place to find relaxation. You can get all different massages, which will help your body so much during your pregnancy. You can also get a manicure and pedicure and feel so beautiful because you are!
Make a meal for yourself. Plan your favorite meal to make for yourself and enjoy every single bite. Then, treat yourself to that delicious meal, whether it’s an expensive steak or just spaghetti and meatballs. Don’tDon’t forget the dessert! That’s the best part! Whatever your favorite meal of the day is, make it for yourself! You deserve it!
- Stay Positive During Your Adoption ProcessNow, we know how much an unexpected pregnancy could be affecting your life, in mostly a negative way. We know that it can be hard to stay positive through such a difficult time. However, it is important to try and stay positive. Although this unexpected pregnancy is a negative part of your life, adoption is a very positive for you, the birth mother, the adoptive parents, and your child!Remember the positives of choosing adoption. Although this might not have been how you saw your life going, choosing adoption is the best decision for you and your child. You will be able to give your baby up for adoption, and you won’t have to worry about raising him or her. All the while, adoptive parents will be getting your child to raise. They may not have children of their own, or they just want to adopt to have a child to raise as their own. This adoption decision you make will give so much positivity to the adoptive parents.
- We Offer Counseling to Birth MothersIt is okay to ask for help. You are going through something traumatic, and it may be one of the most difficult times for you. We offer professional counseling to the birth mothers we help, including you. You can choose professional counseling through us during and after your adoption process.Seeking help when you are feeling overwhelmed or when you just need someone to talk to is important. We help a lot of birth mothers like you! We will never judge you based on if you seek the help you need. It is normal, especially for birth mothers.
- Start an Adoption JournalStarting a journal and keeping track of your feelings is a great way to stay in tune with your emotions. A pregnancy under any kind of circumstance is emotional. Even if this pregnancy was a personal one, journaling might be a great option as well. Expressing your emotions on paper at any time in your life is such a great way to get the weight off your shoulder and help you move on.An unexpected pregnancy can change your life forever, so can adoption, so journaling about the experience and your feelings is key. Journaling throughout your adoption process is a great way to understand your feelings and write memories of this experience. \If you don’t want to remember anything about your adoption process and would rather move on afterward, you can still keep a journal! However, a great way to let go of this traumatic part of your life is to throw away or burn the journal at the end. This way, you can let go of this unexpected pregnancy and adoption process and move on with your life if that is what you choose!
We Are Here to Help You Through Your Adoption Process in Oklahoma
Your self-care is up to you! You can have one bath during your entire pregnancy, and that could be it. That is completely valid. You don’t always need to be doing self-care during your adoption process, but it might be a great aspect to add to your life.
Contacting an adoptive caseworker here at Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a great way to start this self-care. We are here for you and will be that support team for you. We will guide you through the adoption process and help you choose your journey. Contact us today to start your adoption and self-care journey!
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and a leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized adoption experience to all involved in the adoption process. If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us.
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Meet the Author: Molly Allington is an aspiring author born and raised in Syracuse, New York. When she’s not watching her latest Netflix obsession, you can find her nose deep in a book or in her writing. She has been writing books since she was twelve and is in the process of trying to get her finished books published. Molly has a BA in Creative Writing from Southern New Hampshire University. With her writing, she is hoping to share supportive information and help as many people as possible. Once she starts her own family, she is wanting to adopt.