A Birth Mother’s Perspective on Adoption: The Birth Mother Who Already has Children
When Lydia chose to place her baby for adoption, she was happily married and already a mother to three other children. However, she and her husband had not planned on her becoming pregnant. They could not support another child, as they were already struggling to make ends meet as it was.
As Lydia and her husband debated what to do, Lydia remembered a friend of hers from high school. Her friend was adopted as a baby and had a wonderful adoptive family, talking about them all the time. She wondered if that would work for her family?
After Lydia talked to her husband, she began researching different adoption agencies and types of adoption. Her friend had never really talked about their birth parents, but through her research, she discovered something called “open adoption.”
An open adoption would allow her child to have a loving family that could provide them with a bright future, and Lydia and her family could still have a relationship with the child.
Lydia’s Adoption Journey as a Birth Mother Who Already has Children
Lydia then made a few calls to local adoption agencies and eventually ended up in contact with Adoption Choices of Oklahoma. The adoption agency fully supported her decision to choose an open adoption and was ready to help her in any way they could.
Both her adoption caseworker and birth parent counselor worked with her family to explain what adoption meant to her children. Then, her caseworker helped her and her husband find the best adoption match for their baby.
Dealing with the stress of pregnancy was tough on Lydia, especially when she balanced being a mother and dealing with her emotions. However, knowing that her baby would be cared for was a rewarding feeling. Adoption Choices of Oklahoma never shamed Lydia for struggling with her emotions; instead, they comforted her as she made an adoption plan, trying to make everything as easy as possible.
In order to help ease her worries, Lydia’s adoption caseworker was able to arrange a meeting between Lydia and her husband and their child’s adoptive parents. During this meeting, Lydia was able to express her concerns to her child’s future parents. In the end, the meeting was very successful; the adoptive family was very understanding of Lydia’s concerns.
Now, Lydia’s baby is thriving. He is loved by his entire family and is well provided for. Lydia and her family are frequently updated on his life by his adoptive family. Once a month, both families get together to catch up, with Lydia’s son toddling around with his siblings and laughing.
A Birth Mother Who Already has Children’s Perspective on Adoption and Unplanned Pregnancy
If you are a pregnant woman considering adoption, we hope Lydia’s story has provided the hope and encouragement necessary for you to move forward with your adoption journey. Our qualified staff at Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is equipped to assist you with anything you might need. We will never turn you away because of your situation, so don’t be afraid to give us a call.
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized adoption experience to all involved in the adoption process. If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us.
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Meet the Author: Grace Myers is a sophomore digital media major at North Greenville University. She loves writing and hopes to pursue a career in journalism or public relations after graduating.
An adoptee herself, Grace is passionate about writing for adoption. She especially loves hearing adoption stories and getting to know a variety of people.