A Letter from a Biological Sibling: For Birth Mothers Placing Multiple Children for Adoption
Hi, Baby Sister!
I am your big sister. My mom and dad say that you are going to be born soon, and I am so excited! You’re not growing inside mommy’s tummy, though. You are growing in someone else’s belly, and then after you’re born, you’ll come home with us! My parents say this is called adoption.
Adoption is what happens when you are born to one family, but another family cares for you and raises you. I was adopted too. My other mommy comes over to talk with mommy and daddy and play with me sometimes – she’s very nice. Maybe your other mommy will come to visit you too.
When you finally get here, I promise to teach you everything about being a girl. We will play dress-up, and with my dolls — Daddy might even build us a swing! Oh, and don’t worry — I’ll protect you from bad things. Mommy says that big sisters are like superheroes. I’ll be the best superhero ever!
I can’t wait until you get here!
Your Big Sister
Placing Multiple Children for Adoption
As an expectant mother, it is important to know that there is no limit to how many children you can place for adoption. Many other birth mothers like you have placed more than one child for adoption. This is perfectly okay to do.
If you find yourself facing a second unplanned pregnancy during the adoption process or afterwards, it’s okay for you to work with our adoption center in Oklahoma again. Choosing to place a second child with the same adoption agency, we’ve found, provides other birth mothers with a huge sense of comfort and peace of mind. Not only have they worked with us before, but they are also familiar with creating an adoption plan and how the adoption process works. The same can be true for you.
Keeping Siblings Together in the Same Adoptive Family
Another benefit of placing another child with the same adoption agency is that we try our best to keep biological siblings together. We will contact the adoptive parents who you chose previously and ask if they can take the sibling as well. If the adoptive parents are not able to have your second birth placed with them, our adoption agency will do what we can to ensure that the siblings remain in contact with each other as they grow.
However, if you would rather choose a different type of adoptive parent or another type of adoption that is always an option too. Your adoption caseworker will help you form an adoption plan that best fits what you need and want out of your adoption journey, as they did the first time. If that is the same, we can do that. If it’s something different, we can do that too. You are in complete control over the adoption process.
Unplanned Pregnancy and Adoption in Oklahoma
Whether this is the first time you are considering placing your baby for the first time, or if you’ve already had an adoption journey, Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is here for you. We can help you find the best match possible for your baby.
Are you ready to start your adoption journey? Give us a call today!
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized adoption experience to all involved in the adoption process. If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us.
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Meet the Author: Grace Myers is a sophomore digital media major at North Greenville University. She loves writing and hopes to pursue a career in journalism or public relations after graduating.
An adoptee herself, Grace is passionate about writing for adoption. She especially loves hearing adoption stories and getting to know a variety of people.