A Letter from a Birth Mother: A Mother’s Love to the Child I Placed for Adoption
A Letter from a Birth Mother
You are so loved, and while I may not be present in your day to day life, you are never far from my heart. There are some days that I wonder what would have happened if I had chosen to parent you, if choosing adoption was the easy way out. But then I remember that my life hasn’t always been like this. That, at the time you were born, placing you for adoption was the best thing for you. Just because I placed you for adoption does not mean I didn’t love you. In fact, I loved you so much it hurt. Choosing to place you in the care of someone else was the hardest decision I have ever made in my life.
After you were born, there were days I bawled my eyes out, missing those tiny fingers and toes of yours. However, I was comforted by the fact that I knew your adoptive mother was there to hold you and love you in my place. Your adoptive family is going to give you the brightest future you can ever imagine, and you are going to thrive. They’ll be there to remind you how loved you are each and every second of the day. Your adoptive mom keeps me updated through letters and pictures. She tells me all about your milestones, what you like, and what you don’t – and for that, I am very grateful. I can’t wait to see the type of person you become.
Maybe one day you’ll decide you want to get to know me, and on that day, I’ll gladly hug you with open arms; until then, I’ll think of you every day and will be forever grateful for what your adoptive family does for you.
Loving you from afar,
Your birth mother
A Letter from a Birth Mother – A Note from Adoption Choices of Oklahoma
Without a doubt, choosing to place your baby for adoption is one of the most emotional decisions you will make in your life. Therefore, you should never feel afraid to express what you feel about your situation. Remember that placing your baby for adoption does not make you weak or a bad mother – it does not mean that your baby is unloved. When you chose adoption, you are choosing to do what is best for your baby, even if it means your baby won’t be with you – and that is the most loving sacrifice of all.
Here at Adoption Choices of Oklahoma, we understand the emotional impact of adoption on birth mothers, and we are here to support you every step of the way. You are not alone.
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized adoption experience to all involved in the adoption process. If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us.
Toll-free: 800-898-6028 | OKC Local: 405-755-1999 | Tulsa Local: 918-447-7777 | Text: 405-310-8790 | Email
Meet the Author: Grace Myers is a sophomore digital media major at North Greenville University. She loves writing and hopes to pursue a career in journalism or public relations after graduating.
An adoptee herself, Grace is passionate about writing for adoption. She especially loves hearing adoption stories and getting to know a variety of people.