Adoption or Surrogacy: What is the Best Option with Family Planning?
Welcome to Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Oklahoma! Over the last two decades, we’ve built families through the miracle of adoption, and in recent years, we’ve created families through surrogacy. Adoption is very different from surrogacy. Even so, we approach each process in a very similar manner.
We treat our clients equally, regardless of whether they’re going through the adoption process or the surrogacy process. We connect everyone to the people who will help them, and we make sure to guide them through the process.
Adoption at Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Oklahoma
There are three different types of adoption: open, semi-open, and closed. Depending on which type of adoption she picks, the birth mother can decide which family she wants her child to grow up with. If she has a more open adoption plan, she’ll be able to meet the adoptive parents, and they’ll be in contact with each other throughout the pregnancy. They can also stay in touch following the child’s birth.
We will accommodate the birth mother throughout the adoption process. We’ll provide a birth parent counselor. The counselor will help her go through the adoptive parents’ profiles. If the birth mother wants her baby to be raised by specific people, we can accommodate her. If she wants LGBT adoptive parents or adoptive parents who practice a specific religion, we can connect her to candidates who fit those descriptions.
Our adoption agency will cover the birth mother’s prenatal (pre-birth medical) expenses.
There are many reasons why a birth mother would place her child up for adoption. Maybe she’s very young and unprepared for motherhood. Maybe she’s in a bad place financially. Regardless, adoption allows her to carry on with her life while giving her child the life he or she deserves.
Aspiring parents may seek adoption if they struggle with infertility and want to provide a home for a child who needs them.
Surrogacy at Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Oklahoma
Surrogacy is very different from adoption. During adoption, a woman facing an unplanned pregnancy finds an adoptive family for her biological child. During gestational surrogacy, a woman carries and delivers a child she is not biologically related to. The woman who carries and delivers a baby through gestational surrogacy is called a surrogate mother or a gestational surrogate.
Prior to the surrogacy, both the woman and the intended parents undergo physical and mental evaluations. This is to ensure that everyone is healthy and participating in the surrogacy for the right reasons. Following the evaluations, eggs and sperm are collected from the intended parents. The eggs and sperm respectively are then used for a process called in vitro fertilization (IVF). After that, lab-fertilized embryos are placed inside the surrogate in the hopes that at least one will stick. Once we confirm that the surrogate is pregnant, she will have to see an obstetrician regularly and keep in touch with the intended parents until the baby is (or babies are) ready to be born.
Sometimes, the surrogate mother is a woman the intended parents know (a close friend or a family member). Sometimes the surrogate mother is a stranger the intended parents meet through a surrogacy agency. Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Oklahoma helps connect surrogate mothers to intended parents.
The intended parents cover all the prenatal expenses. Depending on the surrogacy plan, the surrogate mother may or may not receive compensation for her time.
The intended parents may choose surrogacy over adoption if having a biological connection to the child is important to them. A woman may volunteer to become a surrogate mother if she loves being pregnant and wants to help those who are struggling with infertility.
Adoption or Surrogacy
Whether you choose adoption or surrogacy, both are viable options for couples and individuals struggling with infertility. Depending on their circumstances and desires, they will have to decide which family-planning option is best for them. Regardless of what they decide, Adoption Choices of Oklahoma will be here to connect them to birth mothers and surrogate mothers.
If you are unexpectedly pregnant and considering adoption, contact us or click here. If you are interested in becoming a surrogate mother, contact us or click here.
Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Oklahoma is a surrogacy and adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and leader in the community. We assist both intended parents and gestational carriers (surrogates). Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized experience to all involved in the surrogacy process.
You may visit our website here or call toll-free: 800-898-6028 | OKC Local: 405-755-1999 | Tulsa Local: 918-447-7777
or Text: 405-310-8790
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