An Adoptee’s Love: A Letter to a Birth Mother Who Placed Her Baby for Adoption
Dear Birth Mother,
You are a hero. You did everything possible to ensure I was well cared for, even if it was painful for you. You endured a loss so that I could have a bright future. Please don’t think you were weak because you weren’t ready to be a mother. I’ll be honest and say that there are definitely days when I wonder what life would be like if you had decided to take care of me. However, there is never a day that I wonder if I am loved.
The adoptive family you chose for me is amazing, and they are incredibly thankful that you chose them to care for me. You are a hero to them too. My family has given me a wonderful life, and we do so many fun things together. Maybe one day you can join us. I’ve grown so much since you last held me. I’ve started school and made lots of friends. I constantly want to learn new things. My parents tell me about the day they met you and about the day I was born, all the time. They showed me a picture of you, and you look so beautiful and kind. Maybe one day we can meet, and you can tell me about your childhood. Please know that I love you.
A Letter to a Birth Mother – A Note from Adoption Choices of Oklahoma
Without a doubt, choosing to place your baby for adoption is one of the most emotional decisions you will make in your life. Therefore, you should never feel afraid to express what you feel about your situation. Remember that placing your baby for adoption does not make you weak or a bad mother – it does not mean that your baby is unloved. When you chose adoption, you are choosing to do what is best for your baby, even if it means your baby won’t be with you – and that is the most loving sacrifice of all.
Here at Adoption Choices of Oklahoma, we understand the emotional impact of adoption on birth mothers, and we are here to support you every step of the way. You are not alone.
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized adoption experience to all involved in the adoption process. If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us.
Toll-free: 800-898-6028 | OKC Local: 405-755-1999 | Tulsa Local: 918-447-7777 | Text: 405-310-8790 | Email
Meet the Author: Grace Myers is a sophomore digital media major at North Greenville University. She loves writing and hopes to pursue a career in journalism or public relations after graduating.
An adoptee herself, Grace is passionate about writing for adoption. She especially loves hearing adoption stories and getting to know a variety of people.