Becoming a Single Father Through Gestational Surrogacy
Those who want to become a single father but are unable to conceive naturally often pursue gestational surrogacy. Gestational surrogacy is when a couple or an individual hires someone to carry and deliver their child.
Gestational surrogacy comes with many challenges. The intended parents need to find a surrogacy agency they can trust. They need to meet and negotiate with their surrogate. They need to undergo the egg retrieval process, the in vitro fertilization (IVF) process, and the embryo transfer process.
The surrogacy process is more challenging when one intended parent is working alone. It’s difficult to become a parent through gestational surrogacy when you’re single. Unmarried men have to navigate additional obstacles to make their dream of fatherhood a reality.
Fortunately, surrogacy agencies like Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Oklahoma are here to help men surpass all the obstacles they’ll face on their surrogacy journey. Our agency can provide all the information men will need during their time as intended parents.
The Surrogacy Process for Single Men
When a single man decides to pursue gestational surrogacy, he has to go through an additional step. On top of finding an agency and a surrogate, he’ll have to find an egg donor.
Typically the intended parents provide their own egg and sperm for the IVF process. A married couple can provide both the egg and the sperm, but a single individual can only provide one of the two. A single man can only provide the sperm, so he would have to find a donor.
While searching for a donor, he’ll have to consider her age and medical history. Is she young enough to provide healthy eggs? Do certain diseases or mental illnesses run in her family? The answers to these questions may affect his child’s well-being.
Financial Challenges for Single Men Going Through Gestational Surrogacy
Gestational surrogacy is expensive. The intended parents are in charge of the IVF expenses and the IVF expenses. They’re also responsible for covering the surrogate mother’s prenatal (pre-birth medical) care. In some cases, the intended parents pay the surrogate directly for her role in the surrogacy process. This is called compensated surrogacy.
An unmarried man with one income may have fewer financial resources than a married couple with two incomes. Unless he has some extra money saved up, an unmarried man might not be able to afford gestational surrogacy. (Regardless of one’s career or material status, it’s best to save up before starting the surrogacy process.)
A single man may consider altruistic surrogacy. Altruistic surrogacy is when the surrogate mother doesn’t receive any payment. If an unmarried man and his surrogate agree to altruistic surrogacy, the former will have fewer financial worries during the process. If his surrogate happens to be a close friend or a relative, she might be more willing to carry his child for free.
Becoming a Single Father Through Gestational Surrogacy in Oklahoma
Becoming a parent through gestational surrogacy is difficult regardless of relationship status. Still, when a single individual pursues gestational surrogacy alone, he or she is forced to face unique obstacles and extra steps.
If you’re a single man who wants to pursue gestational surrogacy, don’t hesitate to contact us. Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Oklahoma strives to help anyone who can’t have children through conventional means. We care about all our intended parents. We understand the challenges single intended parents face, and we’re here to help you combat them.
Do you know someone who wants to become a parent through gestational surrogacy? Are you interested in helping a friend or family member by becoming a surrogate? If so, be sure to contact us.
Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Oklahoma is a surrogacy and adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and leader in the community. We assist both intended parents and gestational carriers (surrogates). Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized experience to all involved in the surrogacy process.
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