Can I Make an Adoption Plan in Oklahoma if I Don’t Know Who the Birth Father is?
As the birth mother, you are in control of your Oklahoma adoption plan. Fortunately, if you don’t know the birth father, you can still make your adoption plan in Oklahoma. If you find out you are unexpectedly pregnant but have no idea who the birth father is, you can still choose adoption. Adoption is a choice for you, whether you are going through your pregnancy alone or not.
If you have any questions for us, we are here 24/7 for you. Here at Adoption Choices of Oklahoma, we are a private adoption agency working for birth mothers to help you create the best adoption plan for yourself and your child. If you are concerned about legal issues regarding the birth father, contact us and we will have answers for you.
Birth Father is Unknown or Not in Your Life
When the birth father is unknown, you can continue your Oklahoma adoption process without needing their consent. There are some cases where you may need this consent, but most likely, you are able to go through with your adoption in Oklahoma. Connect with any of our adoption caseworkers.He or she will gladly tell you everything required for your unique adoption and if you will need the birth father’s consent depending on your situation.
There is a putative father registry available, so if the birth father finds out about the adoption and wants to be involved or doesn’t support it, he can claim his birth father’s rights through this registry. If the birth father does not fill out this registry and claim his rights, you are free to decide everything in your adoption plan without the birth father’s consent.
When placing your baby for adoption in Oklahoma, you will have an attorney who will handle the legal side of the adoption. When the birth father is unknown this means that your attorney will not be required to notify him about this adoption. This being said, your OKC adoption can be as private as you want and only has to involve you making every decision for yourself and your child.
Birth Father Rights in OK
Being knowledgeable about the birth father’s rights is important. On the off chance that you find out who the birth father is or they come back into your life and he claims his birth father rights, understanding what can happen due to him having these rights is important.
If the birth father does not support your adoption choice, he will have to formally contest the adoption. This will require several legal steps in court that your attorney will forgo. The outcome of this may affect your adoption in Oklahoma.
If the birth father finds out about your adoption and supports you, he can claim his rights and help you with the adoption if he chooses. He can help pick which type of adoption, who the adoptive parents are that will raise your baby, and even help plan the labor and delivery plan. This all can be very overwhelming on just you, so having help from the birth father may be great. It all depends on the relationship between you two, but remember, you have a support team here at Adoption Choices of Oklahoma and we want to help as much as we can with counseling if needed.
How Adoption Can Affect Your Child
Depending on what type of adoption you choose, you may have future contact with your child. If you don’t know who the birth father is, you can’t tell your child about their biological father. He or she might have tons of questions about him that you can’t answer. This can affect your child’s emotional wellbeing. He or she may think that their birth father doesn’t care about them or they may feel abandoned. Even though your child is in a loving home with their adoptive parents, not knowing who their birth father is could affect them negatively.
Your child may want to know who their birth father is to find out what he looks like and why they have certain physical features. He or she may just be curious as to why he’s not in your life anymore. Keep the conversations positive and remind them how much you love them. Make them feel like their birth mother’s love is the only thing they need, but also remind them that it’s okay to be curious about their birth father, but you don’t have any answers for them.
Have More Adoption Questions? Contact the Best Adoption Agency in OK
If you’re still unsure if you are able to go through with your adoption plan, connect with one of our adoption caseworkers here at Adoption Choices of Oklahoma and he or she will be happy to answer any questions you have. We only want what is best for you and your child and we know that adoption is a hard process. Unfortunately, the legality of certain situations may forbid us from being able to do anything to help, but we will try everything to get you and your child exactly what you want.
You are not alone in this process. We are here 24/7 for support if you need it. Do not hesitate or feel ashamed of needing or wanting help. Being a birth mother is not easy, especially when you are going through this process without knowing who the birth father is. We are here for you.
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized adoption experience to all involved in the adoption process. If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us.
Toll-free: 800-898-6028 | OKC Local: 405-755-1999 | Tulsa Local: 918-447-7777 | Text: 405-310-8790 | Email
Meet the Author: Molly Allington is an aspiring author born and raised in Syracuse, New York. When she’s not watching her latest Netflix obsession, you can find her nose deep in a book or in her writing. She has been writing books since she was twelve and is in the process of trying to get her finished books published. Molly has a BA in Creative Writing from Southern New Hampshire University. With her writing, she is hoping to share supportive information and help as many people as possible. Once she starts her own family, she is wanting to adopt.