Celebrating Mothers Day and Birth Mother’s Day
By Melissa Camacho
It’s a warm, sunny day in May. You walk down the block surrounded by flower shops thinking, What do Birth Mothers mean on Mother’s Day? As a leading adoption agency, Adoption Choices of Oklahoma believes every kind of mother is the reason for this special occasion. It is believed that children need to grow with their biological parents to experience a life full of love and affection. But, as you can see, it’s not always the case for some children. You have entered the adoption world, and it feels like you just moved to a new country.
The same way you visit or move to another country, you feel like you need to learn a ‘new language .’It’s the same experience as you walk through your adoption journey. In learning about different situations and categories during the adoption process, you begin to hear these terms, such as birth mother, expectant mother, and adoptive mother. Each contributes to the life of a baby in one or more ways. We can help you learn how these terms share a relationship and their unique roles in adoption. So let’s start by celebrating Mothers Day and Birth Mother’s Day!
Description of Expectant Mother, Birth Mother, and Adoptive Mother in Terms of Adoption
An expectant mother is a pregnant woman expecting a baby, but it’s up to her if she chooses to keep her baby. Either she is pregnant and considering adoption or maybe deciding on termination of pregnancy. If she is experiencing an unplanned pregnancy and decides to place her baby for adoption, she becomes a birth mother.
Unfortunately, when expectant mothers choose adoption as an option, they are faced with the same concerns and challenges as a birth mother. As a result, they feel they are irresponsible and careless or simply not good mothers at all. However, expectant mothers can learn about the generosity they possess in choosing an adoption plan and birth mothers.
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma provides expectant mothers with facts about adoption before they begin their journey. Feel free to share this information with other expectant mothers you know in the Oklahoma adoption community. People can learn why so many expectant mothers work with Adoption Choices. We work together to combat the negativity that inhibits our birth mothers from choosing adoption.
Birth mothers are expectant mothers who are currently in the adoption process. This means they are connected to an adoption agency and are assigned an adoption specialist. Adoption specialists guide birth mothers through the process of choosing an adoption plan and seeking the resources they need to prepare for their birth delivery. An adoptive mother is a mother who adopts a child as chosen by the birth mother.
Come Together to Celebrate Birth Mothers, Expectant Mothers, and Adoptive Mothers on Mother’s Day in Oklahoma
You are the reason for the season! If you are an expectant mother, you may consider how your life will change once your baby is delivered. There are no rules for expectant mothers to celebrate Mother’s Day. It’s your day. Start by engaging in very relaxing activities to help release mental and physical stress. You can meet up with your family or friends and have dinner. If you prefer to spend some leisure time with yourself, meditate, read, jog, or walk.
Read one of your favorite magazines or a book. Watch your favorite movie. Better yet, read some baby fun facts. Did you know Birth Mother’s Day is celebrated on the Saturday before Mother’s Day? Yes, there is a day dedicated to birth mothers. In 1990, in Seattle, Washington, Birth Mother’s Day was founded by Mary Jean-Wolch-Marsh and a group of birth mothers. The event was celebrated as a new tradition to honor birth mothers worldwide. The purpose of this annual event is to:
- Commemorate the love and sacrifice birth mothers create in the adoption life cycle for their babies
- Honor the love and care committed by the adoptive mothers for adopted children
- Educate people about adoption and learn about the positive impact it can have on a child
Why Should We Celebrate Birth Mother’s Day
You are the root of your baby’s existence in the world, and an adoptive mother bears fruit to your baby’s growth. This is a connection that you, the birth mother, build in bringing your child into the world. Show how much you love your child by sending handmade cards or a little gift basket. Reward your baby’s adoptive mother for her love and support by picking up a bouquet of flowers for her. How about movie tickets, lunch, dinner, dessert, champagne for two? Set up a time where you both can meet and talk about precious moments and look at some cute baby photos.
Adoptive mothers can show their appreciation to birth mothers for granting them the opportunity to love, care for, and teach a child to grow. Send the birth mother a little handmade note from her child to tell her how much love and remembrance there is for her. In addition, you can create a little Mother’s Day gift basket with stuff she likes, like sweets or makeup.
Celebrating Mothers Day and Birth Mother’s Day!
There is no right way for expectant mothers, birth mothers, or adoptive mothers to celebrate their Mother’s Day. Every mother is different and special in her own way of giving or raising a child. Adoption is loving and caring for a child; it’s not abandoning a child. Birth Mother’s day was made for your freedom to celebrate. Thanks to you, people can be more open to adoption and accept it as another route in giving normal, loving life to a child.
We are the new home of support for Expectant Mothers, Birth Mothers, and Adoptive Mothers
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency licensed by the state of Oklahoma and a leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us. Toll-free: 800-898-6028 | OKC Local: 405-755-1999 | Tulsa Local: 918-447-7777 | Text: 405-201-6643 | Email
References: “National Birth Mother’s Day – May 7, 2022” National Today, https://nationaltoday.com/national-birth-mothers-day/ Accessed April 25, 2022