Choosing Adoption After You Have Been Sexually Assaulted in OK
A sexual assault resulting in an unwanted pregnancy is a very traumatic experience. Going through with an unplanned pregnancy is not an easy decision, but adoption may be the best choice for you. You have so many options when it comes to adoption in Oklahoma. We understand if you would rather choose abortion to terminate the baby and forget about the entire situation. Here at Adoption Choices of Oklahoma, we want to be here for you. We have a support team ready to welcome you and give you everything that you need. We offer professional counseling as well, so you can talk to us about anything you want or need. We know that choosing adoption after you’ve been sexually assaulted is hard and we want to be here for you during such a traumatic time in your life.
I Am Still in Contact With the Birth Father Who Assaulted Me
If you are still in contact with the person who sexually assaulted you and caused you to become unexpectedly pregnant, confide in someone you trust. If you can, go somewhere safe if you still live with the birth father. This is a very scary scenario for many women and having people you trust who you can go to is important. We are here for you 24/7, either by call or chat! If you are deciding on whether or not adoption is right for you, we are here to help you make that decision. Unfortunately, if you are still in contact with the birth father and he knows about the pregnancy and adoption, he has rights as a birth father. Although, once you contact us and begin your Oklahoma adoption process, we can get rid of his rights if we see that he is abusive. We don’t want to risk him getting custody of your child if he is abusive. We want you and your child to be safe. We want you to be safe at all times, especially when you are pregnant. Both you and the baby are at risk when you are still in an abusive situation. Choosing adoption when you still know the birth father or are still in a relationship with him can be hard. We understand that you may want to forget that the entire incident happened, and we want to try and make that possible for you. Wanting the best for your child may be your number one priority because you don’t want them to be in a toxic environment. Choosing adoption in order to give your child the best life possible is a commendable act because you are making sure they are in a happy and healthy home at the end of the day.
I Don’t Know Or Have Contact With the Birth Father Who Sexually Assaulted Me
Not knowing who sexually assaulted you can make everything a lot more traumatic for you. Our professional counselors are here for you if you need to talk to anybody about your experiences. If you don’t know or don’t have contact with the birth father who sexually assaulted you at all, you have all of the adoption rights. Since the birth father is not in your life, he doesn’t have his birth father’s rights when it comes to adoption. Not knowing who sexually assaulted you is very hard. This can really change your life forever. Now you have to choose if you want to carry the baby to term and then if you want to raise them or put them up for adoption to forget about such a traumatic time in your life. We know that even though you are putting your baby up for adoption, you want the best for them. You can choose whichever type of adoption you feel most comfortable with as well. Many birth mothers in your situation choose a closed adoption to put this traumatic experience behind them. However, you can also choose open or semi-open adoption if you want to see what your child grows up to be. It’s completely up to you! You get to decide what your future looks like with adoption.
Is Adoption the Best Choice For You After a Sexual Assault?
Whatever you choose for you and your baby, we will support you. If you don’t think adoption is right for you at this point, that’s okay! If you think that adoption is the best decision for you and your baby, that’s great! We want to be here for you every step of the way if you would like our support. Here at Adoption Choices of Oklahoma, we want to be that support team for you. If you have been through a traumatic experience like a sexual assault and want to put your unexpected baby up for adoption in Oklahoma, you can contact us! You can connect with one of our Tulsa adoption agency caseworkers, and they will be more than happy to help you through your adoption process. We are available for you 24/7! Don’t wait to start your adoption process and get the help you may need.
If you or someone you know has been a victim of a sexual assault, reach out here are a few resources that might help. Here are a few resources you can call outside of our agency:
- National Sexual Assault Hotline: Call 800.656.HOPE
- National Sexual Assault Online Chat and list of resources can be found here
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and a leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized adoption experience to all involved in the adoption process. If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us. Toll-free: 800-898-6028 | OKC Local: 405-755-1999 | Tulsa Local: 918-447-7777 | Text: 405-310-8790 | Email Meet the Author: Molly Allington is an aspiring author born and raised in Syracuse, New York. When she’s not watching her latest Netflix obsession, you can find her nose deep in a book or in her writing. She has been writing books since she was twelve and is in the process of trying to get her finished books published. Molly has a BA in Creative Writing from Southern New Hampshire University. With her writing, she is hoping to share supportive information and help as many people as possible. Once she starts her own family, she is wanting to adopt.