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Counseling And Support After Putting A Baby Up For Adoption

By Nicole Hatton

Did you recently put your child up for adoption? After finalizing your adoption decision, there may still be a lot of things for you to process and think about. Complex emotions may arise, and other family dynamics may still be a part of your life. Just because you recently placed your baby up for adoption does not mean that your adoption journey is over. Life does not stop, and you are still able to have a family even after the whole adoption process. No matter if you had an unplanned pregnancy or not, you will have access to counseling and post-adoption support well after your adoption journey. Even if it is a year after you went through the adoption process, you may still need guidance and support. Keep reading for more information and resources on the post-adoption process and stigmas surrounding life after adoption.

Why It’s OK To Start A New Family After Adoption

Many birth mothers may feel guilty about starting a new family after adoption. While it’s valid to think about the child you had before, it’s important to recognize that there were different circumstances. Having a new family does not mean that you love your other child any less. It does not mean that you are having a new family to replace them. You may be in a better place to financially and emotionally support your new child. Perhaps you had an unplanned pregnancy, or complex family matters to deal with. Many birth mothers would love to have a family of their own and experience the joys of parenthood.

Processing Your Emotions After Finalizing Your Adoption Decision

It’s completely valid to have feelings of grief or loss after putting a child up for adoption. Many birth mothers develop special relationships with their babies before giving birth. You may be experiencing second thoughts or doubts about your decision. It can also be more difficult if you are experiencing backlash from friends or family. Take the time you need to grieve and process your emotions. Feel free to express your emotions with a support network or even journal your thoughts. Remember that you are on your own adoption journey and may take a different amount of time to heal than others. 

Receiving Adoption Counseling

At Adoption Choices of Oklahoma, you can receive free counseling before, during, and after the adoption process. Just because you may need assistance with creating an adoption plan does not mean that you don’t need help later. We want to be with you every step of the way. We will be happy to help you on one and want to learn more about your background. If you need someone to talk to and sort out your feelings, we will do our best to help you. Even if it is a year after your adoption decision, we understand that there are things that could still affect you. Whether your relationship status changed or you are simply experiencing conflicting feelings, your concerns will be heard.

Birth Mother Support Groups

There are different support groups that you can join to offer encouragement to each other, advice, or share stories. Even if you are simply thinking about or considering child adoption, you can join a support group. Tulsa adoption agencies, Adoption Choices of Oklahoma, and other agencies in different states can connect you to support groups. Different support groups may have different customs and activities, so it’s important to find one that you feel comfortable with. They can discuss Oklahoma City adoption in general, participate in campaigns, or spread awareness about adoption. Support groups will also have different meeting schedules and can meet online, in person, or even both. Birth mothers of all different ages, backgrounds, and experiences can join a support group. If you would like to share your story and feel empowered, most support groups will be happy to have you share. However, it’s important to keep in mind that you should only share and do what you are comfortable with.

Accepting Your Adoption Decision

It’s essential to remember that placing your baby up for adoption is not giving up on them or yourself. Choosing adoption shows that you are considerate and have your child’s best interest at heart. It shows that you are a caring mother who loves your child. Even though you won’t be raising your child, you have taken the necessary steps to look after your child. If you choose to do open or semi-open adoption, you can still have a connection with your child. Now, you can focus on other aspects of your life, such as career goals or other personal aspirations. 

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