Different Types of Adoptive Parents in Oklahoma
The most important part of the adoption process is finding the right adoptive family, the people who will raise and provide for your child. As a birth mother, you get to decide who your child will grow up with. Your birth parent counselor will provide profiles on available adoptive parents. You may have a diverse pool of adoptive parents to choose from. There are many different types of adoptive parents, each with their own stories and reasons for adopting.
Older Adoptive Couples in Oklahoma
Some adoptive parents may be a lot older than others. Older couples may choose to adopt because: 1) they are too old to get pregnant or 2) they are too old to have children without complications or birth defects. Some may have spent years struggling with infertility and are now past their prime. Adoption may be their only option, their only chance, to start a family.
Members of the LGBT Community as Adoptive Parents
Members of the LGBT community can’t have children through conventional means, so they usually seek alternatives like surrogacy or adoption. If having a biological connection to the child isn’t important to a gay or lesbian couple – if all they care about is becoming parents – adoption is a wonderful option. They may also choose adoption because they understand that there are children in the world who need a loving home.
Single Men and Single Women as Adoptive Parents
Many of the people seeking adoption are married, but some of the people seeking adoption are single. Some aspire to become parents but don’t have a partner or spouse to conceive a child with. Adoption can help them overcome this obstacle.
Young, Straight Couples as Adoptive Parents
There are many reasons why young, straight couples may adopt. Some struggle with infertility and they can’t get pregnant at all. Others have had multiple miscarriages. Sometimes young, straight couples adopt because they don’t want to pass a genetic disorder down to their kids. Others adopt simply because they want to provide a loving, caring and supportive home to a child who needs them.
Multicultural Couples and Families as Adoptive Parents
Transracial adoption, or interracial adoption, is when a couple or individual adopts a child who is of a different race. For example, when a white couple adopts a black child (and vice versa). Some adoptive parents want to adopt children who look similar to them, but others don’t care about race or appearance.
If an adoptive parent grew up in a multicultural home, he or she may want to create a similar family through transracial adoption. Interracial couples may also consider transracial adoption.
How do I Choose My Child’s Adoptive Family?
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma can guide you through the adoption process, but only you can decide who will make the best adoptive parents.
Think about what you want for your child. Do you believe your child would be better off with one or two parents? Do you believe being raised by a gay or lesbian couple or individual would help your child learn about love and acceptance? Would you consider transracial adoption?
After reading through the adoptive parent profiles, think about what each adoptive parent has to offer. Does their age matter to you? Do their values and interests align with yours?
Different Types of Adoptive Parents at Adoption Choices of Oklahoma
Similar to how different birth mothers choose adoption for different reasons, different adoptive parents choose adoption for different reasons. Adoption Choices of Oklahoma works with a variety of people, each with their own unique circumstances. If you have a specific idea in mind for an adoptive parent (for example, if you would like to work specifically with LGBT adoptive parents), we can accompany you.
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized adoption experience to all involved in the adoption process. If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us.
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