Fact vs. Fiction: Three Common Adoption Myths for Birth Mothers
If you were to Google the word “adoption” right now, the search results would result in pages and pages of information. As a birth mother considering adoption, you may find it difficult to separate the fact from fiction when presented with so much information all at once. However, to make a well-informed decision, you need to know the truth. Our wonderful staff here at Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is prepared to present you with the most unbiased and factual information possible regarding options for an unplanned pregnancy — including adoption.
However, if you are still unsure about adoption and are not ready to speak with a staff member — that’s okay! Allow us to debunk these three common adoption myths for birth mothers.
Myth #1: If I place my baby for adoption, I am giving up. Only bad mothers chose adoption.
Fact: While the phrase “giving up your baby” is the traditional terminology associated with adoption, this myth is 100% false. In fact, the adoption community is working to replace the traditional terminology with the more accurate phrase of “place your baby” because it is more positive and true to what you are doing.
You are not a bad mother if you choose adoption. Placing your baby for adoption does not mean you are giving up. It does not mean that your baby is unloved. Choosing adoption is the most significant and bravest parenting decision you will ever make. It is not easy to admit that you cannot provide your child with the life they deserve. By choosing adoption, you are selflessly choosing to provide your child with a great life, even if it means that life is with another family. It takes a brave woman to make that choice.
Myth #2: Adoptive families will not want my baby. They will not love him or her as their own.
Fact: Our adoptive family waiting list is continuously growing. We have so many adoptive couples and individuals who are ready to love your child as their own — regardless of your background. Every single one of our families has been dreaming of growing their family through adoption, and will never turn your baby away.
Our adoptive families, along with our entire adoption agency, believe that family is more than DNA. That it is created through love, not just by blood. Additionally, open adoptions are becoming more common, and many birth mothers have become family to the adoptive parents of their child.
Myth #3: It is too late to choose adoption after my baby is born.
Fact: Newborn adoption (0-3 years old) is an option in Oklahoma. In fact, at our adoption agency in Oklahoma, an adoption caseworker can either meet you in your hospital room or in the comfort of your own home. From there, they will work with you to find the best family for your baby. We promise never to judge your choices — adoption is always an option.
Debunking Common Adoption Myths for Birth Mothers in Oklahoma
As a birth mother, there is a lot of information to consider when choosing to place your baby for adoption. We hope that debunking these three myths has helped clarify some questions that you may have had during your decision-making process. If you have any other questions, please don’t hesitate to reach out to an Adoption Choices of Oklahoma staff member – we are here to help.
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized adoption experience to all involved in the adoption process. If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us.
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Meet the Author: Grace Myers is a sophomore digital media major at North Greenville University. She loves writing and hopes to pursue a career in journalism or public relations after graduating.
An adoptee herself, Grace is passionate about writing for adoption. She especially loves hearing adoption stories and getting to know a variety of people.