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Factors to Consider and What to Look For in an Adoptive Family

By Hannah Bayly

Are you facing an unplanned pregnancy and considering adoption? Or, perhaps you have already begun the adoption process and are working on your adoption plan. No matter which step of your adoption journey you are on, you will be working towards choosing an adoptive family for your baby. You might be excited about the prospect of getting to choose the perfect parents for your baby. Or, you may be nervous or feel pressure about having to choose. When you work with Adoption Choices of Oklahoma, you don’t have to worry. We will walk you through what to consider and how to make the choice that’s right for you and your baby.

Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private, local adoption agency. When you choose to work with us, that means you are choosing to have a private adoption in Oklahoma. This means that you will have control and get to participate in making choices for you and your baby. This includes choosing the adoptive family who will raise your baby. This is one of the most important choices you will make, which means you should be equipped with the knowledge of how to make that decision. If you’re unsure of what to look for or what to consider when choosing an adoptive family, we can help.

Factors to Consider When Choosing an Adoptive Family

One of the most important things to remember when choosing an adoptive family is that every adoption situation is unique. As a birth parent, your situation and background are different than others. Your values might be different from another birth parent’s values. Each adoptive parent is also unique. This means that what you might be looking for in an adoptive family may be different from what another birth parent is seeking in an adoptive family for their child. Keeping this in mind and embracing each person’s differences can make your choice easier. 

One of the biggest factors to consider when choosing an adoptive family is your values. Sit down and take time to self-reflect. If you have certain values you live by, or a certain moral code you live by, start with those factors. Perhaps you are a religious person and value living by your religion’s code. This might lead you to discover that you want to find a family who is part of the same religion. Or, perhaps you are someone who greatly values supporting your community. You may want to look for a family who is actively involved in their community. Starting with self-reflection to figure out your values can help you to discover what to look for in an adoptive family.

Another important factor to consider is lifestyle. Perhaps you are someone who loves sports or places great importance on physical activity. You may want to look for an adoptive family who loves to participate in those types of activities. Or, you may be someone who thinks it’s important to spend time outdoors. In that case, you may want to find a family who will teach your child to appreciate and experience nature. Thinking about the kind of lifestyle you want your child to experience can help you narrow down your choices.

What to Look For in an Adoptive Family

Most adoption agencies in Oklahoma will provide you with a wide range of adoptive families to choose from. Making such an important choice can be overwhelming. Especially when there are so many loving and supportive families looking to adopt. Establishing the values that are most important to you will help you to begin to narrow down the choices. You may ask, “Once I’ve done that, what’s next?” There are additional things you can look for to assist you in making the best choice for your baby.

One thing to look for is if the adoptive family already has children. Perhaps you would like your baby to grow up with siblings. Or, maybe you wish for your baby to have the undivided attention of their parents when they are placed for adoption. Consider this when you are reviewing adoptive families. Another thing to look for is the location in which the family resides. If you are looking for a family that is open to having communication and contact post-placement, then location can be a big factor.

Another thing to look for is their desire for an open, closed, or semi-open adoption. The level of contact between the birth parent and the adoptive family varies between these different kinds of adoption. With a closed adoption, there is no contact. If you do not want to have any contact with your child after the adoption, this might be right for you. In an open adoption, you can have a relationship with your child after the adoption is finalized. You might feel strongly that you want to be part of your child’s life post-adoption. If this is the case, you should look for an adoptive family that’s accepting of an open adoption.

Working with Adoption Choices of Oklahoma

If you are still unsure of exactly what you are looking for in an adoptive family, you don’t have to worry. You don’t need to have an exact idea of the adoptive parents you are looking for to raise your baby. With Adoption Choices of Oklahoma, you will work one-on-one with an adoption expert to figure out what qualities you are looking for in an adoptive family. Most importantly, you will never have to question if you are choosing a safe, loving family for your baby. Each family goes through a home study to ensure that they can provide a safe, secure environment for a child. Adoption in Oklahoma can be complex, and we pride ourselves on the quality of our home studies so that you do not need to be concerned.

If you need unplanned pregnancy help, we are equipped with the resources to support you. If you find yourself searching for terms such as “giving baby up for adoption,” or “place baby up for adoption,” we can help. Our adoption counselors are available to you day or night. You don’t have to worry about being judged or looked down upon. Our adoption experts will treat you with kindness, compassion, and understanding while respecting your choices throughout your adoption journey. We are available to speak to you about your options at any time of day. Reach out to us today to begin your adoption journey.

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