Help I’m Pregnant! Can I Give My Baby Up for Adoption If I Already Have Kids?
If you already have children, you might feel that adoption is the right choice. But can I give my baby up for adoption even though I have a family? Yes, you can still give your baby up for adoption. You, like other moms, have a natural concern for your children and want the best for them. Perhaps, you may have older children and are concerned about how to explain your choice to them? Or maybe you are unable to financially provide for your child. Whatever the reason is, it is common for women with other children to give a baby up for adoption. Remember that you are not giving up on your child but rather striving to give him or her the best future you can.
How to Explain Putting Up Your Baby Up for Adoption to Your Children
Your other children might be confused about your choice because they already expect their new sibling to live with the family. Have discussions early on, this might help them gradually get familiar with the adoption and comfortable with the idea that the new baby will not be coming home with you after the hospital. After they have a better understanding, allow your children to express themselves and let you know their feeling are being heard, but ultimately it is your choice. They need to know that you are choosing adoption out of love and want the best future for their new sibling.
After you developed an adoption plan for your baby, you may also involve your children in the adoption process. You may involve them in helping you choose the adoptive family. Letting them take part in the Oklahoma adoption process will help them see how their sibling’s life will be. You may even choose an open adoption to continue communication between your family and your child’s adoptive family. This may put your other children at ease. Remember to be honest with your children. Children will catch onto things faster than you expect. Your adoption specialist can also help explain adoption to them.
Decide If Adoption Is What is Best for You and Your Family
Choosing whether adoption is right for you is hard, but remember that adoption is available regardless of your situation. There are options out there, and it is not uncommon for women well into their adult lives to discover they are unexpectedly pregnant. Previous adoption placements do not prevent you from choosing adoption again. Common reasons for choosing adoption include:
- Already Having Children
- Financially unable to afford another child
- Having a career requiring attention
- Not wanting to parent.
If you already gave a child up for adoption, you may have the opportunity to place a second child with the same family if they are ready to adopt again. If not, the family your child joins may build a relationship with your other child’s adoptive family.
No one else can tell you what’s best, but your adoption counselor will talk with you about your options and help you sort through your emotions. Giving your second child for adoption is about the same as the first. Your adoption specialist will take you through all the steps and help you find the right family. Adoption Choices of Kansas is ready to help when you’re ready.
Talking To Your Child’s Birth Father
Talking to your child’s birth father is a must. Unplanned pregnancy is rarely easy to discuss, but both of you must consider each other’s feelings and concerns. When approaching him, consider when and where to break the news, avoid blaming, be honest about your wishes and needs, and give him time to process his thoughts. Afterward, you will have to discuss how to tell other people.
Your child’s birth father may have different ideas on what to do, but coming to an agreement first is necessary. A professional can help if you can not figure out what to do. This even has a lot of emotions involved. As you discuss your options, don’t make a decision because of pressure. Finances will play a role in your decision, and your specialist can help.
If the father is not supportive of your decision, you are not alone, and you can still pursue an adoption plan. The birth father does have rights in Kansas, so some requirements have to be met to move forward with adoption. The U.S Supreme Court affirmed protection of a father’s rights when he establishes a familial relationship with the child. Laws regarding termination of parental rights or adoption proceedings for unmarried fathers remain determined by individual states. Many states have provisions to a voluntary acknowledgment of paternity which can be done through a paternity registry or through forms filed with the state’s Social Services Department, Registrar of Vital Statistics, or other entities. Adoption Choices of Kansas’ will provide an attorney and pay for all your legal fees. The agency will also help with appropriate living expenses if needed.
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is Here to Help You Begin the OK Adoption Process
If you are facing an unwanted pregnancy, it is important to feel confident about your decision. Getting your family to adjust will have challenges, but you don’t have to do it alone. Our agency is here to help at no cost to you. Your decision will give your baby a happy life and give a child to a family who otherwise would not have a child.
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and a leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized adoption experience to all involved in the adoption process. If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us.
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Meet the author: Seannea Wharton is a student at Miami University majoring in English. As of now, she is working on her first novel, starting a book blog, and learning American Sign Language. She was raised in a suburban town in New Jersey and has various hobbies such as gardening, cooking, and crocheting. She enjoys learning about a wide range of topics and loves finding new books to read.