Important Things to Include in an Adoption Plan as a Birth Mother
As a birth mother, you want what is best for your baby. Just because your pregnancy was unplanned does not mean that you don’t love your baby. Therefore, it is entirely natural for you to feel worried about missing something important when creating your adoption plan. However, if you work with an adoption agency like Adoption Choices of Oklahoma to place your baby for adoption, your caseworker will work with you to ensure that all the elements of your adoption are covered.
That being said, it never hurts to have an idea of your plan’s structure. To help create that idea, we have compiled a list of important things to include in an adoption plan.
The Basics of an Adoption Plan
An adoption plan helps determine what your child’s future will look like and assist your caseworker in narrowing down prospective adoptive families for you to choose from. An adoption plan is entirely customizable to fit your needs and desires as a birth mother, so never feel afraid to talk to your adoption caseworker about any questions or concerns you may have.
Over the years, Adoption Choices of Oklahoma has helped countless birth mothers create the perfect adoption plan, and we can’t wait to help you. Here are some basic elements found in every birth mother adoption plan:
- What do you want your child’s neighborhood, school system and community to look like?
- What values, religion, or belief system do you want them to be raised in?
- What do you want him or her to know about their adoption? About you?
- What kind of relationship do you want to have with the adoptive family before and after the adoption process? Do you want an open, semi-open or closed adoption? If you chose something other than a closed adoption, what of contact would you prefer?
- What were the best parts of your childhood? Is there any specific thing you would like your child to experience during their childhood?
- What do you want your child to know about their culture?
- What are the qualities you want his or her adoptive parent(s) to have?
- What kind of activities or hobbies do you want your child to have?
You Have Rights as a Birth Mother
While the above list of questions may seem daunting at first, know that you do not need to answer everything at once. Take a deep breath, take your time and trust your gut. No one will make you rush to decide on something. You have the right as a birth mother to be in complete control of your adoption plan.
When thinking about these questions, consider your own childhood. Are there positive memories you wish you could share with your child? Is there something you experienced growing up that you never want your child to experience? Use your own personal memories and experience to guide your choices. If you get stuck on a specific question, your birth parent counselor and adoption caseworker can provide their professional opinions to help point you in the right direction. However, they will never make you do something that makes you feel uncomfortable. You deserve to feel at peace when you think of your child’s future.
Important Things to Include in an Adoption Plan as a Birth Mother in Oklahoma
Creating a thorough adoption plan is crucial for a successful adoption. Our qualified staff is prepared to help you create the best plan possible and will never judge your choices. If you are considering placing your baby for adoption, please know that Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is on your side.
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized adoption experience to all involved in the adoption process. If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us.
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Meet the Author: Grace Myers is a sophomore digital media major at North Greenville University. She loves writing and hopes to pursue a career in journalism or public relations after graduating.
An adoptee herself, Grace is passionate about writing for adoption. She especially loves hearing adoption stories and getting to know a variety of people.