In our current world, racism and prejudice are two things that most of us have encountered at some point in our lives. Whether that means we’ve been at the receiving end or have been the ones doing it to others, it’s sadly become commonplace in our society. It’s something that affects everyone — especially children.
If you are considering transracial adoption, you’ve probably already been back and forth with whether or not it’s a good idea. Fears, uncertainty and questions have no doubt taken residence in your mind a time or two. Maybe you’ve even listened to the myths about transracial adoption and wondered if they were true. Don’t worry. You’re in good hands. Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is here to help you dispel some of the misconceptions associated with transracial adoption.
Myth: Transracial Adoption is Harmful for Children
Fact: There are those who believe children of different races do not belong in families that do not share their culture. For instance, black children with white parents. It’s said that transracial adoption hurts children psychologically, physically, and culturally. This is false.
Race is a major part of transracial adoption. That aspect is true. It’s something prospective adoptive parents should be prepared for and carefully consider throughout the process. However, as a whole, transracial adoption is not harmful for children. In fact, recent studies show that parents of transracial adoptees talked more with their children about race and ethnicity than that of same race families. It enhanced varying cultures in their homes, and created a broader sense of acceptance.
Myth: Talking about Race Breeds Racism
Fact: No. You’re actually opening the lines of communication to teach your child about acceptance, and educate him or her about the current culture of racism and prejudice. This will help them understand their world better and teach them how to navigate any challenging conversations or disrespectful words that are thrown their way. Talking about race with your children, and showing them that their differences are good is beneficial in the long run.
Myth: Love will Fix Everything
Fact: The misconception within this surrounds the idea that an adoptive parent’s love for his or her adopted child will supersede any challenges or doubts brought on from the outside world. Unfortunately, this isn’t correct. Love is indeed powerful. But, it isn’t a one-way street or a magical genie. Just like with any other kind of relationship, it takes daily effort to make the parent-child bond work.
Myth: Differences will Fade Away
Fact: Along the same lines as above, differences don’t disappear with time. In fact, as your child grows, so will his or her awareness. Nurture doesn’t win over nature. Both must work in tandem.
By the time a child reaches toddler age, he or she is able to detect different skin tones. Your child will begin to ask questions, and process emotions. These only get more complex as he or she grows older. That’s why it’s so important to teach your child early on that differences aren’t a bad thing. Rather, that your son or daughter is special, and nothing is wrong with them.
Myth: Adopting Transracially shows You’re a Good Person
Fact: Is that your reason for adopting a child of another race? If so, you may have to take a moment to re-evaluate. Bringing home a child from a different race or culture just to show that you’re a good person isn’t the best reason to pursue this type of adoption. Rather, transracial adoption should come from a deeper motivation: your heart.
If you are adopting transracially because you truly believe that children are more than the color of their skin, then you’re doing it right. Don’t let anyone make you think or believe differently.
Myths about Transracial Adoption
Have you heard any of these myths about transracial adoption before? Perhaps, believed them or spoken them yourself? We hope that we were able to help ease your mind with our non-exhaustive resource. It’s important to know all you can about the type of adoption you want, and what you could encounter as your new son or daughter grows up.
Transracial adoption is a beautiful blending of families. It can offer you an opportunity to embrace diversity and learn about an entirely different culture and race from your own.
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma
If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact, Adoption Choices of Oklahoma. You may visit our website here or call 405-794-7500 (Oklahoma City) or 918-982-6220 (Tulsa).
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About the Author
Rachel Robertson is a published journalist, book editor, certified Publishing Specialist, and aspiring novelist. She graduated from Central Washington University (CWU) in March 2011, having found her writing voice within the Creative Nonfiction genre and grew to work as a freelance book editor for small presses all across the United States.
In June 2018, she embarked on an internship with Virginia Frank and came on board with Adoption Choices Inc., Not for Profit 501(c)(3), in December 2018. Between her mutual passion with adoption and surrogacy, and her own personal history with adoption, Rachel is excited to research and share topics each week that will spread awareness and better serve the faithful patrons of Adoption Choices Inc.
When Rachel isn’t haunting her local Starbucks or Barnes and Noble, she’s avidly pouring over her Writer’s Digest subscription or cozying up with a cup of tea and a book. She currently resides in the beautiful Pacific Northwest with her beloved wife and Border Collie.
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