No More Telephone: Myths about Gestational Surrogacy

As a child, did you ever play a game of telephone? You start by telling one person some for example, “A cat with a glad hat.”. This person would continue to tell the next person what they heard and so on. But, by the time this gets back to you the phrase being said is usually nothing like the original phrase that it started out to be. For instance, it could’ve turned into, “The goldfish has shoes.”  Unfortunately, this happens a lot in the surrogacy world as well. Information is misconstrued and myths are formed. Here at Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Oklahoma, we want you to have to correct knowledge about the process of gestational surrogacy.

Here are the three most repeated rumors and myths about gestational surrogacy, along with the facts to contradict them.

Myth: Gestational Surrogacy is Only for the Rich

There are a lot of stories in the tabloids about how more and more celebrities are using gestational surrogacy. But, you would be surprised at how many people in your local community have either contacted an agency like Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Oklahoma to gather more information on gestational surrogacy, or have been through the gestation surrogacy process themselves. 

While gestational surrogacy can be costly, our agency offers financing programs or partners with other organizations to help intended parents no matter their situation. If you qualify, there are fertility loans and grants available. So, the myths about gestational surrogacy being only for the rich and famous is simply that — a myth.

Myth: Gestational Surrogacy is a Great Way to Earn Fast Cash

Anyone who believes this must have failed science or simply forgot that a baby is carried in the womb for nine months. It’s not exactly fast. Besides, money is not the reason gestational carriers decide to carry a baby for intended parents. They are, instead, doing it out of the desire to help another couple or individual have a family they couldn’t otherwise have.

Here at Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Oklahoma, we ensure that all involved from the IVF physician to the intended parent and the gestational carrier are deeply invested in the gestational surrogacy journey for the right reasons. While money may or may not be part of the agreement, we want to make sure that isn’t the sole reason.

Myth: I will have trouble bonding with my baby

Bonding is something that all parents worry about. You question if your child will be happy, if they will love you and how will you know their needs. For intended parents, the worries can be elevated; but, the bonding process isn’t exclusive to your baby’s development in the womb. 

After your son or daughter has been born, they will be given to you right away in the hospital. This is when the bonding can really begin. Remember that your love and nurturing of your child will help secure your overall bond with each other.

No More Telephone

Gestational surrogacy is a practice that is continuously being refined through the effort and experience of professionals and families all over the world. There will always be speculation or myths about gestational surrogacy. So, one can either continue to play their part in “telephone” and believe what they hear from source, or make an appointment with Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Oklahoma to seek the true answers t. 

We are always happy to address any concerns or answer any questions you have regarding the gestational journey. Whether you are a gestational carrier or intended parents — we look forward to hearing from you!

Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized adoption experience to all involved in the adoption process.  If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us.

You may visit our website here or call toll-free: 800-898-6028 | OKC Local: 405-755-1999 | Tulsa Local: 918-447-7777
or Text: 405-310-8790

Meet the Author: Ashley Johnson is an Editorial Intern from Pendroy, Montana. She writes a weekly lifestyle  blog which includes adoption and surrogacy. Before starting at Adoption Choices, Inc., Ashley worked for six years as a legal clerk for a judge in Montana. She has decided to go back to college to finish her degree in Communications in hopes of pursuing her passion for writing. Ashley is excited  to share her experience with  adoption as well as being able to bring a rural outlook on adoption and surrogacy. 

In her spare time, Ashley enjoys working on her family ranch with her husband and two children, coaching high school basketball and settling in.