Oklahoma Birth Mother: Why Women Choose Adoption for Their Baby
Many women in Oklahoma choose to put a baby up for adoption. This could be due to any number of reasons, most likely due to where they are in their life and their ability to raise and care for a child at this point in their life. In Oklahoma, our demographics tell us that mothers are already raising children who cannot afford to raise any more children are high on this list. The same can be said for widows with children, women over 35 years of age who believed themselves to be either going through menopause or unable to conceive. Many women in Oklahoma seek adoption because they cannot afford to raise another child.
Oklahoma Birth Mothers Already Raising Children: Adoption Agreement Type
If you have other children you are raising and find yourself unable to raise another one, adoption is a valid option. Choosing adoption does not mean you are saying goodbye to your baby either. Depending on the type of adoption agreement you choose, you may keep in contact with your child in the future. An open or semi-open adoption agreement is a great choice if you wish to keep in contact with your child in the future. This can extend to visits, phone calls, emails, and letters, depending on the terms of agreement laid out prior to the adoption’s finalization. If you wish to have no future contact with your child, you can choose a closed adoption agreement. Whichever option you choose is a valid and understandable option that is completely up to you. Some families you may consider as your child’s adoptive parents may prefer the adoption agreement their child has with their birth mother. Keep what type of adoption agreement you wish to have in mind when deciding on a family to raise your child.
Menopausal Birth Mothers in Tulsa, Oklahoma
Many Menopausal women believe themselves to be unable to conceive and lapse in using birth control. This can lead to unexpected and unplanned pregnancies. Many women in this position choose to place their children up for adoption because they do not feel able, willing, or ready to raise a child at this point in their lives. Some women feel ready to start their retirement at this point in their lives rather than begin raising their children. There is nothing wrong with wanting to raise a child at any age, just as there is nothing wrong with choosing to place your child up for adoption to be raised by someone else. There are many fine families ready to love and care for a baby.
Indian Child Welfare Act: Impacting Choosing Families in Tulsa
If you or your partner is Native American or registered with a tribe, the Indian Child Welfare Act may apply to you. This Act can affect the possible families you may choose from to raise your child. The ICWA is meant to aid in continuing and preserving Native American culture and heritage among children placed up for adoption. This means prospective adoptive families of Native American heritage or from the tribe you or your partner belong to have the priority of being chosen as your child’s adoptive parents. However, the choice does come down to you in the end. The ICWA does not take away your ability to choose your child’s adoptive family.
Oklahoma Widowed Birth Mothers
If you are unexpectedly pregnant and have recently lost your spouse or partner, you may be considering placing your child up for adoption. If you have lost your partner and are raising one or more children on your own, you may be thinking about adoption. Know that you are not alone and that choosing adoption is valid. Raising a child as a single parent is doable and noble, but also very difficult, especially if you are dealing with the grief from your loss while also trying to raise your child. This may be too much for you, or you may not be able to afford to raise and take care of your child now that your extra source of income is no longer coming in. There are emotional and financial issues that may be forcing you to consider adoption. If this is the case, know that we will help you and handle your case with the utmost respect and care.
Why Women Choose Adoption?
As you can see, birth mothers can come from many different situations. Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is ready to help you no matter your background or situation. Whether you are a mother raising other children, a widow, not emotionally or fiscally able to care for your child, we are here to welcome you with open arms. If you want to join the Adoption Choices of Oklahoma family, give us a call, you are in good hands.
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and a leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized adoption experience to all involved in the adoption process. If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us.
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Meet the author: Carly is a recent graduate of Connecticut College with a dual degree in Psychology and Italian Studies. Graduating Cum Laude with honors in both Psychology and Italian departments, Carly has a background in gender-related research through the Connecticut College Psychology Department and Honors Theses Program. When not trying to figure out life or working, Carly is reading historical fiction novels or playing with her black cat, Isabelle.