Open vs. Closed Adoption Agreements
The type of adoption agreement you choose can impact the way the relationship you form with your child. Despite being placed up for adoption in Tulsa and raised by their adoptive parents, many children form relationships with their biological parents as well as their adoptive parents. This is also possible for birth parents who do not wish to have such contact with their children. It all depends on the choices you make. Adoption Choices of Oklahoma wants to help you understand the differences between these types of adoption agreements, so your wishes are seen through and fulfilled. This is your child and your Oklahoma adoption, and we are here to help you.
Type of Adoption Agreement: Contact
The type of adoption plan you choose can be dependent on the amount of contact you wish to have in the future with your baby. If you choose to have as much contact as possible in the future, an open adoption agreement can be a great choice. If you want to be in contact with your child and their family but would still like to have some space, you can choose a semi-open adoption.
A closed adoption agreement guarantees the file will be closed, and you will have no contact with your child in the future. Some birth mothers prefer this so they can put how they placed their baby up for adoption in the past behind them. Sometimes birth mothers regard this time of their life with shame, but adoption is never shameful and should never be considered so. Adoption in Oklahoma helps so many people and brings so much happiness to everyone involved; it is a beautiful sacrifice that builds many families around the world.
Type of Adoption Agreement: Knowledge of Birth Mother
Depending on the type of adoption agreement you choose and the family you choose to raise your child, their knowledge surrounding you and their adoption process may look different. In the past, many families kept their children’s adoption status secret due to the surrounding taboo. These adoptions were usually closed adoptions.
Many birth mothers had chosen closed adoption agreements in the past due to the shame of an unplanned pregnancy. However, times have changed, and unplanned pregnancies and adoptions are no longer regarded the same way. Unplanned pregnancies and adoption are regarded with much more formality and respect than they were in the past.
Some adoptive parents today decide to go with closed adoptions because they think it would be easier for themselves and their children not to have their birth mother in their lives. This is only because of their own insecurities, but they don’t understand that the families that adoption builds are special and fit together with both birth and adoptive parents. The main thing is that everyone involved is there to love the child at the center of it all.
Choosing Adoptive Families
Whether it be open, semi-open, or closed, the adoption agreement you wish to choose can also help you decide on an adoptive family for your baby. Some families know what kind of adoption agreement they wish to have with their child’s birth mother. This can help you decide which families you would rather not choose, depending on if your wishes and needs align with theirs.
If you wish to have lots of contacts and even some input on your child’s life and development, you should choose a family who will welcome your input. If you want no contact with your child in the future, choose a family who would rather have that type of adoption. The choice is up to you, and your chosen adoption agency should be ready to help you carry out your choice as you wish.
Regardless of what type of adoption you choose, you are not a co-parent with your child’s adoptive family. Your caseworker can walk you through all of these options, as well as understand that you are your child’s birth mother, which is so special and important, but you are not the person raising them. If you choose to place your child up for adoption, the task of raising your child is the job of the adoptive parents you choose for your child.
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma
As your chosen adoption agency, Adoption Choices of Oklahoma wishes to stand by your side and help you through the adoption process. Adoption agreements are very much a part of this process, and we wish to guide you through it all, so call us today, and we will help you choose the adoption agreement that is right for you.
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and a leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized adoption experience to all involved in the adoption process. If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us.
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Meet the author: Carly is a recent graduate of Connecticut College with a dual degree in Psychology and Italian Studies. Graduating Cum Laude with honors in both Psychology and Italian departments, Carly has a background in gender-related research through the Connecticut College Psychology Department and Honors Theses Program. When not trying to figure out life or working, Carly is reading historical fiction novels or playing with her black cat, Isabelle.