Our Adoption Story: Brett and Deb
Deb and Brett had always pictured having a big family with lots of children. However, conceiving a child naturally proved to be difficult, and the couple turned to IVF to start their family, with their second round of IVF resulting in the birth of their daughter. Unfortunately, however, when they tried a third round of IVF, the pregnancy ended in miscarriage and had complications that would keep the couple from having any more biological children.
Despite their inability to have any more biological children, Brett and Deb still wanted to grow their family. They began looking into adoption and deciding whether or not adopting a child was something they wanted to do. Adoption had always been an option for them, even before the complications, but now, adoption was at the forefront of their lives.
In the end, the couple decided to start their adoption journey.
Brett and Deb’s Adoption Story
Deb and Brett ended up having a very complicated adoption journey, enduring two failed adoptions before adopting their son in the Spring of 2020. They had almost given up on their adoption journey when their caseworker called, saying that there was a baby for them that had just been born. While they only had a few hours to prepare, they trusted in their caseworker and went to meet their son, describing the feeling of having him as “the best feeling in the world.”
When it comes to her son’s adoption story, Deb says her son “deserves honesty.” She wants him to know that, yes, his birth mother made mistakes, but she ultimately loved him enough to try and take care of him while he was in her womb – she didn’t abort him or discard him. However, she knew she could not be a good mom to him and wanted what was best for him.
As an encouraging note to birth mothers debating whether or not to place their baby for adoption, Deb wants birth mothers to know that waiting adoptive parents have been on a long and hard journey. Your baby is so loved, cared for and wanted. If you are struggling, there is always a way to communicate that. Know that you are giving your baby a bright future.
The Adoption Choices Difference
With their first two adoptions that failed, Deb notes that they did not work with Adoption Choices, which made a noticeable difference. Their first agencies were always hard to contact and very vague when giving information. There was also no emotional support or counseling available for any members of the adoption triad.
However, with Adoption Choices of Oklahoma, they always had support. Deb notes that she always had a feeling that Adoption Choices would find their match. The family’s adoption caseworker was always reachable and clear. It never felt like they only cared about one side of the adoption triad. Adoption Choices truly cared for everyone involved.
Adoption Story Note for Birth Mothers
Everyone’s adoption journey is different. However, we guarantee that somewhere out there, there is a loving family, just like Brett and Deb, who are ready to welcome your baby with open arms. We hope that this story encourages you and provides a sense of peace as you review prospective adoptive parents for your baby.
If you have any questions or are ready to start your own adoption journey, please don’t hesitate to contact any of our Adoption Choices of Oklahoma staff members.
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized adoption experience to all involved in the adoption process. If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us.
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Meet the Author: Grace Myers is a sophomore digital media major at North Greenville University. She loves writing and hopes to pursue a career in journalism or public relations after graduating.
An adoptee herself, Grace is passionate about writing for adoption. She especially loves hearing adoption stories and getting to know a variety of people.