Our Adoption Story: Jordan and Jon
Jordan and Jon knew from very early on in their relationship that they eventually wanted to start a family together. Thus, when the time was right, the couple began exploring their options – adoption or surrogacy. After some deliberation, they decided that adoption would be the best fit for them, choosing to provide for and love a child already making its way into the world rather than creating a new life.
Their daughter’s adoption was finalized in September 2020.
Jordan and Jon’s Adoption Story
AC: What was the biggest challenge of your adoption journey?
J & J: All the paperwork, there was a lot to go through. Jordan travels for work quite a bit as well, so facilitating all of that with him having to go to work was definitely a challenge. We also had zero time to prepare; we had about 24-hours of notice, so we had to do a little bit of scrambling.
We thought we would have about three months to prepare and would meet the birth mom and talk to her a little bit, but Kirsten from Adoption Choices of Oklahoma called Jordan on a Friday, and Saturday night, they drove to get the baby. She had already been born on February 25, we found out on the 28th, and we got her on the 29th – it was a leap year.
AC: Aside from your child’s birth, what was your favorite part of your adoption journey?
J & J: Telling our parents. There are three sets of grandparents, and she was the first grandchild for all of them. So, getting to tell them that they were becoming grandparents was a lot of fun.
AC: What is the greatest lesson that adoption has taught you?
J & J: How much love is possible. Obviously, neither of us had been parents before. The first night we had with her and how much we loved and cared about her was pretty special. Also, [it taught us] lots of patience.
AC: Do you have an open adoption, semi-open, or closed adoption?
J & J: We did agree to an open adoption. However, we have not heard back from her birth mother since April.
AC: How do you plan on telling your child their adoption story?
J & J: We’ve talked about it a little bit. It’s going to depend on when it comes up for her and where she’s at with it; we don’t really have a set time frame, it just depends on when we think she’s ready for it, and we won’t really know that until it’s closer to time. It is something we are going to be open and honest about – she’s not going to question how we ended up with her on anything like that.
AC: How would you encourage birth mothers considering adoption?
J & J: Adoption provides an opportunity for people like us, families like us, who aren’t able to have children, a chance to provide love and stability and care for a child. Just because your baby is being adopted does not mean that you have to say goodbye.
Adoption Story Note for Birth Mothers
Everyone’s adoption journey is different. However, we guarantee that somewhere out there, there is a loving family, just like Jordan and Jon, who are ready to welcome your baby with open arms. We hope that this story encourages you and provides a sense of peace as you review prospective adoptive parents for your baby.
If you have any questions or are ready to start your own adoption journey, please don’t hesitate to contact any of our Adoption Choices of Oklahoma staff members.
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized adoption experience to all involved in the adoption process. If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us.
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Meet the Author: Grace Myers is a sophomore digital media major at North Greenville University. She loves writing and hopes to pursue a career in journalism or public relations after graduating.
An adoptee herself, Grace is passionate about writing for adoption. She especially loves hearing adoption stories and getting to know a variety of people.
