Putting Together Your Adoption Plan as a Birth Mother in Oklahoma
Creating your adoption plan in Oklahoma as a birth mother is an essential part of the adoption process with our adoption center. It allows you to have an idea of what to expect as you place your baby for adoption and move forward in your adoption journey. This can greatly reduce your anxiety and stress levels as well. Another benefit of having an adoption plan is that you can customize it to fit your desires and needs as a birth mother.
When you choose to place your baby for adoption with Adoption Choices of Oklahoma, your adoption caseworker and birth parent counselor will work with you to ensure that you feel confident and positive about your adoption journey.
Not sure what an adoption plan covers? No worries! Here are the most important aspects that your adoption plan will cover.
- Choose what Level of Openness You want
Once you’ve decided that adoption is the best path for both you and your child, and gotten in contact with our adoption center in Oklahoma, you will be assigned an adoption caseworker who will guide you through the rest of your adoption journey. One of the first things you may discuss together is the level of openness you’re comfortable with, or the type of adoption you are looking for. There are three different types to choose from: closed, semi-open and open adoption. Your adoption caseworker can walk you through what each entails to help you determine which one is the right fit for you and your baby.
At Adoption Choices of Oklahoma, we strongly encourage open adoptions because we believe they benefit all members of the adoption triad and keep everyone’s best interests at heart. However, we understand that every birth mother is unique and we will fully respect and support whichever decision you make regarding openness. You are in control of your adoption journey.
- Select Your Child’s Adoptive Family
A key element of any adoption plan is determining who your child’s adoptive family will be. As a birth mother, you will sift through many adoptive family profile books. When creating an adoption plan, you will have the opportunity to discuss with your adoption caseworker what you would like your child’s adoptive family to be like. Your adoption caseworker will then be able to better match you with adoptive families that fit your preferences, making the overall decision of choosing the right family a little bit easier for you.
- Build Your Hospital Plan
While it might seem odd for details regarding your hospital stay to be included in your adoption hospital/birth plan, the day your child is born is extremely important for your adoption journey. Emotions will be very high for you and your child’s adoptive family, so it’s helpful to have an idea in mind of how you’d like the experience to go. For instance, do you want the adoptive parents in the delivery room with you? Would you like them to cut the umbilical cord? Do you want to have any alone time with your baby to hold him or her before they leave with their new adoptive family?
This will also help the hospital staff and your adoption caseworker to be as prepared as possible for your arrival. However, the plans you make now don’t have to be set in stone. If you change your mind about something on the day of, that’s completely okay and natural. Just be sure to let your adoption caseworker know about the change, so they can ensure everything runs smoothly and as stress-free for you as possible.
Your Adoption Plan as a Birth Mother
The adoption journey can be a very anxiety-ridden and emotional one. There are many moving pieces and things to consider when you are placing your baby for adoption. But, that’s where having an adoption plan comes in. It becomes your roadmap and gives you peace of mind as you navigate through all the decisions.
Having an adoption plan may sound like a lot of work, but it is crucial for a successful adoption journey. Not only does it give you more control over how things will go, but it also allows you time to process and feel your emotions. It helps things run more smoothly and reduces your stress levels overall. Remember that it also lets your adoption caseworker know how to provide you with the most positive and supportive adoption journey possible.
You will never be alone. Our staff here at Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is ready to help you create and customize an adoption plan that is best for both you and your baby.
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized adoption experience to all involved in the adoption process. If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us.
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Meet the Author: Grace Myers is a sophomore digital media major at North Greenville University. She loves writing and hopes to pursue a career in journalism or public relations after graduating.
An adoptee herself, Grace is passionate about writing for adoption. She especially loves hearing adoption stories and getting to know a variety of people.