Becoming a Surrogate Mother in Oklahoma: Red Flags in Gestational Surrogacy
Are you interested in the path of gestational surrogacy? If you’re a woman who enjoys pregnancy, wants to help give back to others then you could be qualified to become a surrogate mother. If you feel like you already know about the process but want to know more of the nitty-gritty details like what to watch during the surrogacy process, we’ve got you covered. At Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Oklahoma, we’ve prepared you a guide on some potential red flags to look out for during the surrogacy process and in intended parents. It’s essential to be aware of the various red flags that can crop up during your surrogacy process. If you’re interested in learning what to watch for when you embark on your surrogacy journey, keep reading!
Red Flags In Intended Parents
One of the most critical aspects of your surrogacy process is matching your intended parents. You will connect with this individual or couple for at least nine months, not including how long it takes for IVF, so everyone’s personalities must mesh well. It’s essential to gauge the awaiting parents’ personalities, beliefs, values, and how they treat each other and you. You will all experience the surrogacy process together, and to ensure a happy, healthy, and safe process for everyone, that means making sure everyone gets along.
You and the Intended Parents Have Clashing Personalities
Not everyone gets along with each other. We all have different belief systems, personalities, and ways of doing things. This is true for all various aspects of our lives. Like dating, it’s vital that you see how you all mesh when you are meeting intended parents. If you think there is any tension or red flags, it’s best not to agree with them. While more minor conflicts can be resolved through compromise, it can be difficult if there are fundamental values that aren’t being respected.
Lapses in Communication During Surrogacy
With so many different outlets of communication at our disposal, it’s a red flag if you do not hear from your intended parents for great lengths at times.
Intended Parents are Not Welcoming Or Friendly
That can be a huge red flag if you are not greeted with respect, openness, or a welcoming or friendly attitude. When you enter the surrogacy process, everyone is in it together for the long haul. That means being open, ready to have honest conversations and being kind. If you feel like there’s something wrong with how you are being treated, then that is a huge indicator of a red flag.
Trust Your Gut During the Surrogacy Process!
At the end of the day, you know best. Trusting your gut is critical when sensing any red flags with intended parents and your surrogacy experience.
Red Flags In Surrogacy Centers
Typically, many surrogate mothers connect with a surrogacy agency that can help them with legal, medical, and matching services. That’s why it’s essential to find a surrogacy center that you can trust and have your back.
Surrogacy Agency Has No Online Presence
The internet holds everything you need to know about, well, pretty much everything. So if you can’t find anything about a surrogacy center online, that’s an immediate red flag. Always do your research on a surrogacy center. Or are they an honest company? Even doing a quick search can tell you a lot about whether a surrogacy center can be trusted or not.
Surrogacy Agency is Not Transparent or Upfront with You
Suppose the surrogacy center you are researching is not clear or upfront with you about your surrogate compensation rate. That is a red flag. As a surrogate mother, you are making a selfless decision to help a person or couple you may or may not know help build a family. That means you should be receiving fair and adequate pay as a result. If you believe that a surrogacy center is not treating you fairly, is withholding, or not transparent, that is a huge red flag.
A Note From Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Oklahoma
Whether it’s providing you the medical or legal services you need, referrals, guidance, or helping you find the best-intended parents that match your values and beliefs, we help you every step of the way. We know how exciting this journey can be, but we also learn about the complexities that go along with it. We want you to trust your gut because you know yourself best. If something doesn’t feel right that’s enough of a reason to call it a red flag.
Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Oklahoma is a surrogacy and adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and a leader in the community. We assist both intended parents and gestational carriers (surrogates).