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Maintaining A Relationship Between Intended Parents and Gestational Carriers in OK

By Katherine Doherty

If you’re thinking about becoming a surrogate mother in Oklahoma, you may feel overwhelmed with how much there is to know. You may be feeling nervous, anxious, overwhelmed, or a little scared about meeting your intended parents. Do your worry you might not get along with them or worried about how to maintain a relationship with them? Don’t worry! At Adoption Choices of Oklahoma, we are here to help in all aspects of your OK surrogacy, whether it’s from medical, legal, or matching services to providing you information on our blog posts. To learn more about maintaining relationships between intended parents and gestational carriers keep reading.

Understanding the Role of Intended Parents 

To have a good relationship with your intended parents and maintain it, it’s essential to understand your intended parents’ role in the surrogacy process. This will help you form healthy boundaries and understand the best way to communicate. Since gestational surrogacy requires the intended parents to use their sperm and egg, you do not have any genetic link to the child you carry and, therefore, no parental right or claim. However, you and your intended parents will be connected through the child’s well-being. 

Matching With Your Intended Parents

As you probably already know, surrogacy agencies typically help you match with awaiting intended parents. We will show you a range of profiles of different intended parents based on various compatibility factors.  We will carefully select your intended parents based on everyone’s desires and needs out of their surrogacy process. This way, you know you are matched with intended parents who have the same values as you, and it can be easier to form a relationship with them. You can meet with them for an in-person or virtual interview as well. 

Creating Healthy Boundaries For Intended Parents and Gestational Carriers

As soon as matching is complete and even before the IVF process begins, it’s essential to work with your intended parents to figure out the best ways to communicate. This will help when it comes to communicating with each other about your individual needs and desires, your boundaries, and what everyone expects out of each other. 

Communicate Your Surrogacy Needs and Desires

It’s important to establish each other’s needs, expectations, and wishes during the surrogacy process. This can happen during the first meeting. It’s essential to make space so everyone can freely communicate with one another and feel safe and respected.

Create A Schedule During Surrogacy For Contact

One way to do this is to form a schedule for contacting each other. This can mean reaching out with a text or phone call during certain times. This can be a helpful way for everyone to establish boundaries when it comes to privacy while also keeping everyone up to date with what is going on in the surrogacy process. 

Mutual Respect For Each Other’s Time

Having an understanding and respect for each other’s time, especially yours, is critical to establishing a relationship between you and the intended parents. Having basic respect for each other is a good foundation for a healthy relationship. 

Understanding Privacy in Surrogacy

To do this, everyone must have respect and understanding of privacy. As the surrogate mother, you are giving up your time to help carry another couple or individual’s child for them. Your intended parents must respect you, your time, and your commitment to helping bring life into the world. It’s also important for you to recognize their desires since you are helping carry their child for them. For example, they may want to attend doctor appointments with you, check up on you, or have you follow a specific diet or exercises during your surrogacy pregnancy. Establishing this all beforehand, as soon as possible, is essential when it comes to creating a relationship between you and the intended parents and maintaining it throughout your pregnancy. 

Choosing Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Oklahoma

The surrogacy journey is a beautiful experience for you and your intended parents. However, for everyone to have a healthy relationship and maintain it throughout the surrogacy journey, it’s essential to have open and honest communication and respect for one another. At the end of the day, you all must work together to have a smooth and happy surrogacy process. Perhaps even after the surrogacy is finished, you will all want to continue this relationship even after. At Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Oklahoma, we recognize your selflessness and dedication to bringing life into this world. We are committed to matching you with parents who will also acknowledge that.  Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Oklahoma is a surrogacy and adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma. We assist both intended parents and gestational carriers (surrogates). Our staff members are committed to providing a personalized experience to all involved in the process. Toll-free: 800-898-6028 | OKC Local: 405-755-1999 | Tulsa Local: 918-447-7777 | Text: 405-201-6643Email

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