Despite all the motions the country has made to show favor towards the LGBT community, there’s more work to do. Part of this includes the struggle over same sex adoption. One of the most dangerous stereotypes surrounding same sex adoption is that it takes a father and mother of opposite sexes to raise a child. Fortunately, since the legalization of same sex marriage in the United States in 2015, our culture and society has seen a gradual shift in mindset. Same sex adoptions are becoming increasingly more popular, and studies have shown that LGBT parents are just as capable as heterosexual couples.
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a proud ally of the LGBT community, and offers same sex adoption to prospective gay and lesbian parents hoping to grow their family.
LGBT Adoption Statistics
Throughout the continental U.S., LGBT parents have been reported to be raising 4% of all adopted children, and that both gay and lesbian adoptive parents represent 1 in 6 single parents who are raising children. What’s more, research shows that same sex individuals and couples adopt at a higher rate than married opposite sex couples. Generally, same sex members are said to be more formally educated, have more economic resources and adopt a little later in life. Same sex individuals and couples cannot become pregnant by accident. Thus, when they pursue adoption, they tend to display more motivation and commitment because they chose to become parents.
There is absolutely no evidence that supports a child becoming gay just from being raised in an LGBT home. Quite the contrary, as most LGBT individuals come from heterosexual homes. Children are influenced by the relationship they have with their parents, not their parents’ sexual orientation. Good parenting is also not derailed by sexual orientation. Rather, a good parent is defined by their ability to love and nurture their children.
Children who grow up in an LGBT home are more open-minded and tolerant towards those of differing mindsets. They are also not confined by gender roles or stereotypes.
Oklahoma State Requirements
Anyone looking to adopt in Oklahoma must be at least 21 years of age or older. A married couple may adopt jointly, or one spouse can adopt in a stepparent adoption. If legally separated, a married man or woman may adopt as a single parent. These are the state requirements for adoption in the state of Oklahoma. Please consult Adoption Choices of Oklahoma to learn how our requirements differ.
Same sex adoption is legal in Oklahoma. Either a single LGBT person or couple can adopt. Oklahoma also permits a same sex partner or couple to a second parent adoption. With Adoption Choices of Oklahoma, we welcome LGBT adoptions — from both single parents and married couples. Our biggest requirement is that couples are married for at least a year before applying to adopt with us. If they are legally married, the couple is permitted to adopt together. If not legally married, however, only one partner can adopt. Because our agency handles many out of state adoptions, the second parent adoption can be finalized once the couple returns to their home state.
Same Sex Adoption in Oklahoma
The current climate towards same sex adoption in Oklahoma appears tumultuous. Particularly since Gov. Mary Fallin signed Oklahoma Senate Bill 1140 in May 2018. The bill prohibits “requirement for private child-placing agenc[ies] to participate in certain placements.” In other words, the law grants agencies the ability to choose whether or not to place children in homes on the grounds of religious or moral convictions and/or policies. It seems the state still remains divided over this, and there’s been an evident shift in how adoptions proceed.
Casting labels, rules and stereotypes is detrimental to the adoption process. Adoption is a unique and emotional journey for everyone. Each individual or couple that embarks into the adoption adventure have differing thoughts and opinions for what they want, and what is okay or not. This makes sense as they are all their own human. Differing opinions happen. It’s all too easy to get caught up, throw shade and create stereotypes. But keep in mind — words have power and radiate with meaning, and the lives of children are at stake.
No matter what your background, there are many children who need homes. Who desperately need the love and care of a parent. Single or a couple. Heterosexual or homosexual. Men or women. It doesn’t matter. What matters is that children find homes, and loving parents get to grow their family through the gift of adoption.
Same sex adoption in Oklahoma has been legal since October 2014. Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is currently the only non-faith-based adoption agency who offers same sex adoption. We’d love to help you start your adoption journey.
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma works with both traditional and non-traditional families. Our agency is proud to assist lesbian, gay, bi-sexual and transgender (LGBT) families with the gift of adoption. We see our LGBT applicants no different than any other applicant. You should show birth parents that no matter your sexual orientation, the baby would be joining a loving, responsible family. Show your home, your family and friends, your hobbies and interests and do not be afraid to show your relationship with your significant other.
If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact, Adoption Choices of Oklahoma. You may visit our website here or call 405-794-7500 (Oklahoma City) or 918-982-6220 (Tulsa).
Support Adoption Choices
Adoption Choices, Inc. is partnering with Crowdrise, a fundraising website for nonprofits, to help our adoptive parents and birth parents with much needed financial assistance. We understand that expenses keep clients from fulfilling their dreams. Both with birth parents making a plan for adoption, and with adoptive parents growing their family. It is our mission to provide financial assistance through grants and scholarships, awarded annually in November, in honor of National Adoption Month. Funds assist adoptive parents with matching and placements, adoption finalization and helping birth mothers improve their lives through higher education — and much more.
However, we can’t do it alone. Please read up on our programs and donate money where you are able. Your donation will make a huge impact.
About the Author
Rachel Robertson is a published journalist, book editor, certified Publishing Specialist, and aspiring novelist. She graduated from Central Washington University (CWU) in March 2011, having found her writing voice within the Creative Nonfiction genre and grew to work as a freelance book editor for small presses all across the United States.
In June 2018, she embarked on an internship with Virginia Frank and came on board with Adoption Choices Inc., Not for Profit 501(c)(3), in December 2018. Between her mutual passion with adoption and surrogacy, and her own personal history with adoption, Rachel is excited to research and share topics each week that will spread awareness and better serve the faithful patrons of Adoption Choices Inc.
When Rachel isn’t haunting her local Starbucks or Barnes and Noble, she’s avidly pouring over her Writer’s Digest subscription or cozying up with a cup of tea and book. She currently resides in the beautiful Pacific Northwest with her beloved wife and Border Collie.
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