Putting into words who a mother is and what she does is almost impossible. There isn’t enough sentiment to fully encompass the gift that mothers are. However, thanks to two women in the past, we now have nationally recognized days to celebrate mothers. Both of them are right next to each other in the month of May. For those two days every year, mothers around the globe are showered with flowers, gifts, cards and words of admiration. Traditions may vary, but the message is universally the same.
Definition of Mother
The Merriam-Webster dictionary offers several different definitions when describing what a mother is. It begins by separating the word “mother” into parts — noun, adjective, and verb — and proceeds to break it down from there. At the very basic level, it defines a mother as “a female parent,” “a woman in authority” and someone who “give[s] birth to [a child].”
The Urban Dictionary, on the other hand, describes a mother in terms that are a bit more real. It states that a mother is someone who “still say[s] she loves you and you will always be her child, no matter what.” That “it’s not just the placenta that forms a bond between a mother” and her child, but her unconditional love.
An Ode to All Mothers
When Mother’s Day rolls around, it’s easy to overlook that there are two different kinds of mothers who should be honored: birth mothers and adoptive mothers. Both women are integral in your child’s life, and you can’t have one without the other. That’s the magic behind adoption.
Each of them are special in their own ways. They are both blessings in your child’s life, and teach him or her valuable life lessons. This year, if you haven’t before, remember that May is for all mothers and make a point to celebrate each mother in your child’s life. The month of May offers two opportunities to do this.
National Birth Mother’s Day
The Saturday before Mother’s Day is dedicated specifically to celebrating birth mothers. It was established in 1990 by Mary Jean Wolch-Marsh, who wanted to acknowledge and show support for birth mothers like herself around the world.
This year National Birth Mother’s Day falls on May 11th, 2019.
Birth mothers are brave and selfless women, who never forget their child. They are a child’s DNA. Choosing to make a plan for adoption is not an easy decision. For this reason, and many more, they deserve all the respect, consideration and kindness that can be offered. Through letters and pictures, birth mothers find comfort in their decision and have confirmation that they chose correctly. This is especially true on National Birth Mother’s Day.
Traditionally, Mother’s Day is celebrated on the second Sunday in May and is a time for children to bless their mothers through flowers, gifts and acts of service. Whether this means cooking dinner or having the house spotless — or both — every child in the house finds a way to show respect and love for their mother. It’s a holiday that has been recognized and celebrated for hundreds of years, beginning in England. Mother’s Day was brought to the United States in 1870 by Julia Ward Howe, who wanted to promote peace after the bloodshed of the Civil War.
This year, Mother’s Day falls on May 12th, 2019.
An adoptive mother doesn’t have to carry a child in her womb to love the child or make the child her own. Motherhood, to her, is stronger than going through the birth pains. Once the child is brought home and legally becomes hers, she is the child’s mother. All the sleepless nights, feeding times, and nursing every scrape and scratch — she endures it all. Faithfully. Patiently. Lovingly.
Mothers are true gifts and blessings. Their wisdom, grace and patience are unfathomable, and they don’t get as much credit as they should. That said, Adoption Choices would like to dedicate the whole month of May 2019 to mothers. For the entire month, we will be sharing stories and articles all about birth mothers and adoptive mothers.
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma
If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact, Adoption Choices of Oklahoma. You may visit our website here or call 405-794-7500 (Oklahoma City) or 918-982-6220 (Tulsa).
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Adoption Choices, Inc. is partnering with Crowdrise, a fundraising website for nonprofits, to help our adoptive parents and birth parents with much needed financial assistance. We understand that expenses keep clients from fulfilling their dreams. Both with birth parents making a plan for adoption, and with adoptive parents growing their family. It is our mission to provide financial assistance through grants and scholarships, awarded annually in November, in honor of National Adoption Month. Funds assist adoptive parents with matching and placements, adoption finalization and helping birth mothers improve their lives through higher education — and much more.
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About the Author
Rachel Robertson is a published journalist, book editor, certified Publishing Specialist, and aspiring novelist. She graduated from Central Washington University (CWU) in March 2011, having found her writing voice within the Creative Nonfiction genre and grew to work as a freelance book editor for small presses all across the United States.
In June 2018, she embarked on an internship with Virginia Frank and came on board with Adoption Choices Inc., Not for Profit 501(c)(3), in December 2018. Between her mutual passion with adoption and surrogacy, and her own personal history with adoption, Rachel is excited to research and share topics each week that will spread awareness and better serve the faithful patrons of Adoption Choices Inc.
When Rachel isn’t haunting her local Starbucks or Barnes and Noble, she’s avidly pouring over her Writer’s Digest subscription or cozying up with a cup of tea and book. She currently resides in the beautiful Pacific Northwest with her beloved wife and Border Collie.
Mother’s Day (Second Sunday in May), www.crosscurrents.hawaii.edu/content.aspx?lang=eng&site=us&theme=cal&subtheme=CULTURHOL&unit=USCAL030.
James, Jessica, and Jessica James. “What Being a Mom Really Means.” HuffPost, HuffPost, 8 May 2016, www.huffpost.com/entry/what-being-a-mom-really-means_n_7242784.
“NATIONAL BIRTH MOTHER’S DAY – Saturday before Mother’s Day.” National Day Calendar, 5 Mar. 2019, nationaldaycalendar.com/national-birth-mothers-day-saturday-before-mothers-day/.
“Remember Where It All Began – National Birth Mother’s Day.” Lifetime Adoption, lifetimeadoption.com/adoptive-families/remember-began-national-birth-mothers-day/.