The Relationships Oklahoma Birth Mothers Have with Those in the Adoption Triad
As a woman or girl facing an unplanned pregnancy, as someone who is considering adoption in Oklahoma, you’re probably experiencing a great deal of stress. Take comfort in knowing that you won’t be alone. Many people will embark on this journey with you. Maintaining a strong relationship with these people can make the adoption process easier for you. Who else will be involved? Who will go on this journey with you? Here are some members of the adoption triad.
A Birth Mother’s Relationship with the Adoption Agency
Adoption agencies exist to support birth mothers during the pregnancy and the adoption process. They educate birth mothers on adoption and help them make all the important decisions: choosing a type of adoption (open, semi-open, or closed), choosing an adoptive family, etc. Depending on the birth mothers’ circumstances, adoption agencies can also provide financial aid and medical aid.
For over two decades, Adoption Choices of Oklahoma has helped women and girls facing unplanned pregnancies choose adoption. We provided support during their time of need, and we wish to offer that same support to you. We hope to form a strong, trusting relationship with you. We want you to feel as comfortable as possible during your adoption process, so we’ll provide all the information you’ll need to create an adoption plan and make the big decisions.
A Birth Mother’s Relationship with the Adoptive Parents
The relationship between a birth mother and the adoptive parents will vary depending on the adoption plan. Both parties will have to decide how much contact there will be after the adoption is finalized.
Some birth mothers maintain a close relationship with the adoptive family through open adoption. The adoptive parents may attend doctor appointments and ultrasound screenings, and they may be in the room when the birth mother gives birth. Following the adoption, they may include the birth mother in special events or important milestones in the child’s life.
If a birth mother chooses closed adoption, she’ll have no relationship with the adoptive family. There will be no contact between the two parties.
You’ll have to decide what type of relationship you’ll have with the adoptive parents? Do you want a close relationship or a distant relationship?
A Birth Mother’s Relationship with the Child
The relationship between a birth mother and her child also depends on the adoption plan. If a birth mother chooses open adoption, she’ll get to receive pictures of her child and updates on her child’s wellbeing. She may also get to see her child in person. If a birth mother chooses closed adoption, she won’t have any contact with her child.
Is maintaining contact with your child important to you? Will seeing your child on occasion make you feel more confident about your decision, or will it make moving on more difficult or painful? Some birth mothers want the certainty and reassurance that comes with open adoption, but others want the distance and privacy that come with closed adoption. You’ll have to decide what type of relationship you want with your child.
A Birth Mother’s Relationship with Other Birth Mothers
Birth mothers often seek companionship with other birth mothers because they can understand each other. Birth mothers can connect with each other online. They can share their experiences and describe the different circumstances that led to them choosing adoption.
When facing an unplanned pregnancy, women and girls often feel scared and alone. If you find a way to connect with other birth mothers, you’ll feel less lonely in your struggles. You’ll feel reassured. You can read blogs or testimonials written by other birth mothers, or you can write your own blog or testimonial. Your own experiences might encourage other birth mothers or make them feel better.
Birth Mothers and the Oklahoma Adoption Triad
The adoption agency, the adoptive parents, the child, and other birth mothers all play an important role in the adoption triad. Some offer support and guidance. Others are facing fears, questions, and decisions similar to yours. No matter how alone you feel, they will be with you throughout the entire experience.
Are you ready to take the first step in your adoption journey? If so, contact us so we can get started. Adoption Choices of Oklahoma will be a part of the journey from start to finish.
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized adoption experience to all involved in the adoption process. If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us.
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