Birth Father Misconceptions: Things People Get Wrong About Adoption
By Katherine Doherty
If you’re pregnant and considering adoption, you might hear many different myths and truths about the adoption process. But, it’s essential to know what’s facts and fiction regarding Oklahoma adoption. At Adoption Choices of Oklahoma, we hope to dispel some of these myths, especially regarding the birth father’s role. Although there are a lot of birth father misconceptions and the adoption process, we are here to help you by giving you the truth you deserve regarding your adoption experience. If you’re interested in learning more about the truth about birth fathers and their role in placing your baby for adoption, then keep reading!
Common Misconceptions About Birth Fathers
Here are some of the four most common misconceptions about birth fathers and the adoption process. We hope that by dispelling some of these myths, you will find the support you need, whether it’s from your child’s birth father or your family and friends. We recognize how different each birth mother’s story is and that you may not know who your child’s birth father is, or he is out of the picture. That’s completely okay. We hope to dispel these myths if you are worried that your child’s birth father does not play a role or is not as necessary during the process.
The Birth Father Plays No Role in the Adoption Process
Does the birth father play a role in the adoption process? The answer is yes! Although there are unknown birth fathers and those who are unsupportive, many are still involved and participate in the adoption process. Our adoption specialists are more than willing to work with you to understand how each of you has roles in the adoption process. We encourage you to work together as a team to decide the kind of family you want your child to be placed with and the type of communication you want post-placement.
The Birth Father Is Not As Important As You
Another common misconception is that all of the attention and priority is placed on you as the birth mother. While you play a vital role in the adoption process, we also ensure that both you and the birth father recognize how important you are. Our goal at Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is to ensure your child’s well-being and support both of you during this process.
Although you, as the birth mother, have full and complete control over your child’s adoption plan, the biological birth father still has rights as you do. Oklahoma adoption requires both birth parents’ consent, and you can work with the adoption specialists at Adoption Choices of Oklahoma to ensure everyone understands their legal rights.
The Birth Father Does Not Need As Much Support As You
It may not seem like the birth father needs as much support as you do, but this is not always the case. We recognize that the adoption process is highly complex and emotional, not just for you. You may think that our services are just for birth mothers, but this is not the case. Instead, we want to provide emotional and mental support and guidance for you both so we can ensure a smooth adoption process.
The Birth Father Does Not Have Contact With Their Child Post-Placement
It is not true that the birth father does not have or does not want contact with their child post-placement. The truth is that both of you can maintain a relationship with your child post-placement if that is what you both want. It all depends on the plan you both choose together. Your child’s birth father is more than welcome to stay in contact with your child post-placement if they decide on an Open Adoption or Semi-Open adoption. However, if you choose Closed Adoption, neither of you will have a relationship with your child once the adoption is finalized.
Making Both Birth Parents Important With Adoption Choices
These birth father misconceptions can be harmful to the role that birth fathers can play. At Adoption Choices of Oklahoma, we know that both of you want to make sure your child has a safe, loving, and welcoming environment to be placed into. The truth is that Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is here to help both of you in any way we can. We recognize that each adoption process story is different, so we are ready to welcome you with open and supportive arms. We are here for the support you need, so reach out to us today if you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy.
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and a leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized adoption experience to all involved in the adoption process. If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us.
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