Top Three Facts Birth Mothers Should Know About Adoption

As an expectant mother considering adoption, you probably have a lot of questions. You’re probably doing research on what to expect from the adoption process. There’s so much information available that it’s hard to determine what’s most important. Fortunately, Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is here to guide you by providing the most crucial and reassuring information.

There’s a lot of things we want all birth mothers to know when they go through the adoption process. Here are three facts birth mothers should know about adoption.

1) Placing Your Child for Adoption Doesn’t Make You a Bad Person

Unfortunately, there are many cruel misconceptions about birth mothers and adoption. Some argue that birth mothers place their children for adoption because they are selfish and irresponsible. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Adoption is a loving and selfless act that benefits everyone involved in the process: the birth mother, the baby, and the adoptive parents.

When facing an unplanned pregnancy, many women and girls fear that they won’t be able to financially support the child. They fear that they won’t be suitable parents, that the child will have a difficult life. Birth mothers want what’s best for them and their children.

You’re here because you want what’s best for your child. When your child is old enough to understand what adoption is, he or she will be grateful that you gave them a stable and fulfilling life. They will be grateful that you found an adoptive family who can provide the care he or she needs.

Many couples or individuals are unable to have children of their own. By placing your child for adoption, you’re making their dreams a reality. The adoptive parents will always appreciate you for your loving decision.

2) You Can Pick Your Child’s Adoptive Family

Depending on which type of adoption you pick, you’ll get to decide which family your child will grow up with. You’ll get to review profiles and interview potential adoptive parents.

At Adoption Choices of Oklahoma, we strive to make the selecting/matching process as easy as possible. We assign Birth Parent Counselors who strive to meet every birth mother’s needs. If you want your baby to be raised by specific people, your Birth Parent Counselor can accommodate you. If you want your baby’s adoptive parents to have a specific background or practice a specific religion, we can introduce you to suitable candidates. If you want to be matched with LGBT adoptive parents, that can also be arranged.

3) You Can Maintain a Relationship with Your Child and His or Her Adoptive Family

Once the adoption is finalized, you won’t have any parental rights over the child. However, depending on your adoption plan, you can stay connected to your child’s adoptive family.

Birth mothers and adoptive parents can exchange contact information if they choose a more open adoption plan. Birth mothers can receive updates on their child’s development on a regular basis. These updates can come in the form of pictures, letters, and/or emails. She can also send letters and emails to the adoptive parents.

If both parties are comfortable, the birth mother and the adoptive family can see each other in person on occasion. The birth mother can also participate in special occasions: birthdays, christenings, etc. Even though she can’t presume a parental role, she can still have a relationship with her child after he or she is born.

Three Facts Birth Mothers Should Know About Adoption

There’s a lot to know about adoption, but these are the things we want all birth mothers to know. If you have any further questions about the adoption process, don’t hesitate to contact us. We have been helping birth mothers through the adoption process for two decades, and we’d be happy to help you.

Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized adoption experience to all involved in the adoption process.  If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us.
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