What Does My Adoption Birth Plan Look Like As a Birth Mother in Oklahoma?
The final decision of your adoption plan is your birth and hospital plan. This is a very important day: the day you meet your child and potentially the adoptive parents. There is so much that goes into your hospital plan as a birth mother. Every birth mother’s hospital plan looks different, so don’t worry if you have certain aspects that aren’t normally choose. This is your decision! Here at Adoption Choices of Oklahoma, we want you to choose exactly what you want for your birth and hospital plan. We want you to be as comfortable and feel as safe as possible on your baby’s birthdate. You can connect with one of our adoption caseworkers, and he or she can answer any questions you have about the last day of your adoption plan.
Do You Want the Adoptive Parents in the Delivery Room?
One aspect of your hospital plan for your baby is to choose who you want and who you don’t want in the hospital room as you are in labor, delivering your baby. Depending on which type of adoption you choose, you can have the adoptive parents there to see the birth of their adoptive child. The adoptive parents have been waiting a long time to get an adoptive child to raise as their own, so they will travel as far as they need to meet their child right as he or she sees the world for the first time. If you choose a closed adoption, you will not have the adoptive parents in the room while you give birth, but you can have other people if you feel comfortable with that. If you would like your mom, dad, the birth father, or a friend with you, you can! As hospitals slowly lift restrictions around the country, you will be able to plan on having someone in the room with you as a support system while you do the strongest thing a woman can do, give birth!
When you are connected with an adoption caseworker, he or she will help you see if the hospital you choose has any restrictions due to the global pandemic. Due to the safety of you and your baby, certain hospitals have restrictions for the safety of everyone in the delivery room. You can choose the hospital to deliver your baby based on these restrictions. It is all up to you!
What Do You Want the Delivery to Look Like?
As a birth mother, you are in charge of everything that happens at the hospital. You can choose whether you give birth vaginally or you can choose to have a c-section. That is a choice you can make! That was probably at the back of your mind when you found out you were unexpectedly pregnant, but keep that in mind towards the end because this decision is timely. Remember that anything can change when it comes to how you will give birth to your baby. You may choose to have a vaginal birth, but if it seems like it would be safer to have a cesarean, you will have to do this unexpectedly. We recommend getting prepared for anything to happen. The birth of a baby can be so unexpected, and anything can change in an instant. We want you to be as prepared as possible.
There are so many other aspects that you can choose as well, like pain medications that the doctors can give you. You will be offered an epidural, and if you don’t want that, you don’t have to, but it will relieve a lot of pain that you will be feeling from contractions during your labor and even your delivery. You can choose if you want music playing throughout the labor and delivery because all we want is for you to feel calm and at peace when you are delivering a baby. We know how hard birth can be, and we only want you to be in a good mood and mindset.
You Just Gave Birth, Now What? Post-Adoption Options
You made it through the hardest part! You gave birth to your baby! You are so strong, and we are so proud of you for going through such a traumatic nine months and the labor and delivery. There are a few post-delivery and adoption options. After you have given birth to your baby, you can hold your baby for as long as you want before he or she is handed off to the adoptive parents, who will then take full custody. You can take pictures with him or her and even take pictures with the adoptive parents if you choose to do so. This is all up to you because we only want you to feel comfortable. Do you want to name your baby? You can do this! You are the birth mother, so you have the right to name your child, but if you would rather have the adoptive parents name him or her, you can choose that, too.
A very important part of post-delivery is to prepare for the emotions that follow. Here at Adoption Choices of Oklahoma, we offer post-placement counseling, and this may be a great choice for you. An unexpected pregnancy, an adoption, and a delivery are very stressful and can make you very emotional. Postpartum depression is something that many birth mothers go through, and this can be really hard if you are going through it alone. We are here for you, and we have professional counselors who you can go to if you need any help. It is okay to ask for help.
What Do You Want in Your Birth/Hospital Plan As a Birth Mother in Oklahoma?
As a birth mother in Oklahoma, you can choose every single thing you want to happen during your adoption. If you make the birth plan and feel like something isn’t right, contact your adoption caseworker and change what you want! We want you to be as comfortable as possible when you are giving birth. Here at Adoption Choices of Oklahoma, we will let you know all of the options you have when making your hospital plan. This is a huge day for you. It is the day your baby is born, the day the adoptive parents become parents and the day that you can move on with your life and forget that this unexpected pregnancy ever happened. It is all up to you what happens on this important day. Connect with an adoptive caseworker today and figure out what you want when you are in that hospital room.
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and a leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized adoption experience to all involved in the Oklahoma adoption process. If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us.
Meet the Author: Molly Allington is an aspiring author born and raised in Syracuse, New York. When she’s not watching her latest Netflix obsession, you can find her nose deep in a book or in her writing. She has been writing books since she was twelve and is in the process of trying to get her finished books published. Molly has a BA in Creative Writing from Southern New Hampshire University. With her writing, she is hoping to share supportive information and help as many people as possible. Once she starts her own family, she is wanting to adopt.