Why Are More Men Turning to Surrogacy in Oklahoma, and How Can You Help?

Gestational surrogacy is when a woman carries and delivers a baby for someone else. The woman carrying the baby is the surrogate mother (or the gestational carrier). The child’s biological parents – the people the surrogate is carrying the child for – are the intended parents.

Many intended parents are married couples. Some are straight couples who have struggled with infertility, and others are LGBTQ+ couples. Not every intended parent is married, though. Single individuals also pursue gestational surrogacy. Over the years, there has been a raise in single men choosing gestational surrogacy to start their families.

What does the surrogacy experience look like for men in Oklahoma?

A man interested in gestational surrogacy would have to familiarize himself with the process. After doing the necessary research, he would have to locate an Oklahoma surrogacy agency.

Agencies, like Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Oklahoma, can help him find a surrogate mother through the matching process. If he doesn’t want to hire a stranger, he can ask someone he trusts (a friend or family member) to be his surrogate.

After finding a surrogacy agency and a surrogate mother, the man would have to go through in vitro fertilization. In vitro fertilization (or IVF) is an artificial process. It is the process in which the embryo is conceived.

Intended parents usually provide their own egg and sperm for in vitro fertilization. An unmarried man can only provide the sperm. He would have to find a donor to acquire the egg. He can ask a friend or family member to provide the egg, or he can use a donated egg from a fertility agency.

After the IVF is complete, the man would have to maintain contact with his surrogate. Depending on the surrogacy plan, he can attend ultrasound screenings. Depending on the birth plan, he can be in the room when the surrogate gives birth to his child.

Why do men turn to surrogacy?

A man may choose gestational surrogacy if he wants biological children. He might be in a good place financially, he might be successful, and he might be ready to take the next big step in his life: fatherhood.

He may pursue surrogacy before marriage because he doesn’t want to wait too long to have kids. As men age, the quality of their sperm begins to diminish. Low-quality sperm may cause birth defects or other health concerns. Also, a man’s health and energy begin to decline as he ages. Most men want to have children while they are still in their prime. They want to be in good condition so they can care for and keep up with their children.

How can I help men who are on their surrogacy journey?

If you’re a woman who wants to help single men have children through gestational surrogacy, you can do so by becoming a surrogate mother. As a surrogate, you’ll carry and support his child throughout the pregnancy. If you’re not interested in being a surrogate, you can help by becoming an egg donor.

If you know someone who plans to pursue surrogacy as a single man, let him know that you’re there for him. Surrogacy is a long and difficult journey – especially when you’re going through it alone – so he’ll appreciate your love and support, regardless of whether you’re a part of that journey or not.

If you’re a single man preparing for gestational surrogacy, be sure to contact us. Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Oklahoma works with all kinds of intended parents, and we’re prepared to help you make your dream of fatherhood a reality.

Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Oklahoma is a surrogacy and adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and leader in the community. We assist both intended parents and gestational carriers (surrogates). Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized experience to all involved in the surrogacy process.
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