Will I Regret Giving My Child Up for Adoption?

By David Seamonson

While it may not be what you want to hear, the reality is that you will feel some sort of regret from placing your baby for adoption. Think about it this way: you become pregnant, carrying your own baby with you for nine months, and then, in the end, you will not be the one caring for them. While this is the case, adoption agencies like Adoption Choices of Oklahoma will be able to make this process a lot easier on you and for your child. We want to help you through the adoption process because when you are considering adoption, you are doing something that makes you powerful and takes back your life.

What Adoption Agencies Do

Adoption agencies are a gathering place for birth mothers and adopting families. Adoption agencies are what you would call a middleman since they act as a bridge between the two sides and make it easier for each side to get what they want. Since there are many different sides to the adoption process, adoption agencies offer more than just a meeting place for people in the adoption process. 

Choosing an Adoptive Family

Adoption agencies are full of adoption specialists so that when you call, they can point you in the right direction and help you make the best decision. To do this, they will ask you a few questions like “How much contact would you like to have with your child?” “What things do you feel your child will need to be successful?” These questions will help them narrow down the families that want to adopt so that you can feel that your decision is the best one.

These two questions are important in that they determine the type of adoption you will face. Through a private adoption agency, there are three options that you will have to choose from: an open adoption, semi-open adoption, and closed adoption. You will end up selecting one of these to determine if you want to see your baby in the future or not, and the other family will also be making the decision on if they are ok with seeing a birth mother again after the adoption is finished. Regardless of your choice, there are many families that want to adopt.

Adoption agencies also ensure that adopting families can support a child through household research and determine if the family can adopt. This information is given to you, so you do not choose randomly. These families will share some of your values, and you will be able to see pictures of their homes and understand how they live. You will be able to know the general area of where they will be raising your child, but you will not be able to know their address.

What can I do During the Adoptive Process?

You get to do everything. There is nothing that you are not able to do in the adoption process. While adoption agencies have many responsibilities during the adoption process, they are only a tool to help you. In an Oklahoma adoption, you will be the one to select an adopting family, you will be able to choose if you want any future contact with your child, you get to finalize the adoption plan, and you have access to all the adoption resources we have. Adoption is not a place where you will feel regret. Adoption agencies exist so that birth mothers can find great families and so that adopting families can raise a baby.

Will I Regret My Adoption Choice?

When you look back on the adoption process and where you started to create an adoption plan, you will know that it was the best decision you could have made. Adoption is a great choice for you and your baby because we want you to feel like you have done all that you could for your baby, so there is no reason for you to have any regret. You have done all that you can, you will choose a great family, and you will know that your baby will go on to have an amazing life.

 Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency licensed by the state of Oklahoma and a leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized adoption experience to all involved in the adoption process. If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us.

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