Women Who Place their Baby for Adoption: 5 Different Types of Birth Mothers
There are so many stereotypes surrounding birth mothers — what they should do, what they shouldn’t do, how they should act, etc. However, no matter what you hear, there is no set definition of what it means to be a birth mother. Here at Adoption Choices of Oklahoma, we know that birth mothers are all special in their own ways. There are so many types of birth mothers out there, and they should not be defined by a specific set of standards. Birth mothers come with all different levels of support, family backgrounds and more.
While we know we could not list out all the different types of birth mothers there are, we wanted to compile a list to help you start thinking through them all. Just remember, this list does not define who you should be. You are the perfect birth mother just being yourself!
Types of Birth Mothers
- The Single Birth Mother
Being a single mother throughout your pregnancy comes with its challenges. In these situations, the birth father has decided that he does not want to be a part of the picture. Whether it was a one-night stand or a boyfriend who decided not to stay around during your pregnancy, it can be easy for a single birth mother to feel alone. Adoption might feel like the best option for you because it offers your child the best possible outcome in life. However, just because you choose adoption does not mean you will go through the adoption process alone! Our agency will be there to help you and support you throughout your entire journey.
- The Married Birth Mother
Yes, it is possible for a married birth mother to want to put her child up for adoption. This does not make her a horrible mother! Some birth fathers are supportive of this decision while in other cases, the birth father might not be as supportive. There are plenty of cases, though, of a happily married couple who decide to place their baby for adoption. This does not mean that the birth parents do not love their child. Rather, it might be that the couple has decided together that they are not ready to raise a child together.
- The First-Time Birth Mother
The first pregnancy will most likely be the scariest pregnancy you face. After all, the first time you face any obstacle is always the most challenging. If this is an unplanned pregnancy as well, there are probably a lot of emotions running through your brain. For a first-time expectant mother, making these decisions might be very hard (especially if you are doing them alone). However, it is important to remember that you do have people there to support you. Whether that includes a significant other, family members, or Adoption Choice of Oklahoma, it is important to find that support system to help you through the process. Chances are, there are many people in your life who have been through the pregnancy process multiple times. They can help with those first-time fears and ensure you have a successful pregnancy.
- The Homeless Birth Mother
One group that tends to go unnoticed are birth mothers who are homeless. However, they are just as important! Just because you find yourself in a sticky situation right now does not mean your child has to be as well. Homeless birth mothers might choose adoption because they know they cannot provide the best home for a newborn child. Nevertheless, just because they cannot provide that home does not make her any less important.
- The Military Birth Mother
Whether you just joined the military or have been in active duty for years, finding out you are pregnant can be intimidating. Wondering how it will affect your career and your duty status are just a few of the questions that might start revolving in your head. However, if this is your situation, know that there are options for you. In fact, some military members might get more maternity leave compared to civilians. While some women in the military will decide to start a family of their own, others are concerned with difficulties of raising a child while on active duty. Having an open adoption with your child is a great way to stay connected with your child while you are still in active duty.
We are Here for You
No matter what category you fall into (or if you fall into multiple categories), Adoption Choices of Oklahoma wants you to know that you are not alone. We will never judge you — regardless of your circumstances or how you came to our agency. Rather, we will be there to support you and help you through every step of the process. Adoption is not an easy route to go down, but never forget that you are not going to go through it alone. Our agency is here for you, and will be here for you throughout the entire process. If you have any questions or would like to talk with us further, please do not hesitate to contact us!
Adoption Choices of Oklahoma is a private adoption agency, licensed by the state of Oklahoma and leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive families in Oklahoma for over 19 years. Our staff members are committed to providing an ethical, empowering, and personalized adoption experience to all involved in the adoption process. If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions https://adoptionchoicesofoklahoma.org/wp-admin/edit.phpor concerns, feel free to contact us.
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